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should i ask

ghillie101

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I don't know whether to ask my ex from 4 years ago if she still self harms evin if I did how would I ask I need some advice, been up all night with a bottle of wine to keep me company
 
Zoe :)

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Did you two end of good terms?
It could go either way, she could be alarmed that you asked about it and worried or she could be glad that someone cares.. X
 
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Hi Ghillie
Calling in here to say hello, I think Zoe has summed it up really well, it depends on how your relationship ended and how you feel yourself. Most important is you stay safe yourself xx
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We didn't rely end on good terms but we have been talking evry no and agen lately, justwasnt sure if it was a bad idea I'll just need to pluck up the courage too ask now
 
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Well me and my ex ended on bad terms and if he asked me about it id probably get angry or something, he was very cruel about it all though, always blamed me for doing it.. We never seen to get on though.. Are you too friendly to eachother, like close enough that you could ask such a personal question?
 
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I feel I realy need to know, it might help me but I rely hope she has stopped. its been a long time and there are things she did that were rely unfair and rely f***ed me up, my problem is that I still care but I havnt even seen her in 2 years.
 
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Get talking to her in a friendly way first, don't ask it directly but just see how she is.. Asking it directly could set something off.. If my ex asked me I honestly don't know what id do, all I know is eventually id end up in tears..
 
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