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Short-term memory

When In Rome

When In Rome

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I could really use some advice right now.

Because this is happening such a lot.

So this morning, the typical situation.

I go for breakfast. I visit the ATM. I key in for £20. I take my card. I go to the cafe. Half hour later I go to pay for the meal. I have no money.

I know this is part of my condition. People are right to say oh this can happen to anyone. But they are wrong because it would not happen almost every time.

I would say this happens 80% of the time So my bank know me and are aware of my autism and have told me NOT to use ATM's anywhere but always to go into the bank to make sure they see me take the money.

One time this even happened when I had my social worker with me so it can happen even with a carer around. Luckily that was just £10.

ATM's have a retrieval system where if the money is not taken within 15 seconds it goes back into the machine and you can reclaim the amount not taken, if you see what I mean.

Only once has that ever happened, I was able to recover £30 that would have been lost.

It is scary to think of how much cash I actually have lost, fact I don't want to think of that.

Is it because I am getting older? It is like I have almost no short-term memory at all now but if you were to ask me any year of any song, I could tell you it.

I guess the simple rule would be not to use an ATM on a weekend? But not every cafe will accept cards.

And just an hour ago when this happened, I never considered the problem at all so it is about my non-awareness.

Like when I revisit the ATM to withdraw more money, I am aware of what has just happened.

It is really getting me down because I feel such a mug? I'm not bothered too much about who finds the money and keeps the money, I would just like to find a solution and a way of not losing it.

Any words of advice and support would be appreciated, thanks.
 
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That is really a problem isn't it? I think not using ATMs is the answer here isn't it? Or always have someone with you if that is possible... but that would be apain. We can't use Cheques any more can we much? That or only use coffee shops which you know accept cards. Ask in advance if they do.

Anxiety is the number one cause of people having loss of memory I think. When anxious or depressed our minds just switch off the more mundane tasks in our head and we forget things. Are you anxious lately?
 
When In Rome

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I think anxous may be my middle name really. I even worry about worrying.

Maybe there isn't much advice people can give on this one.

The bank told me to not use outside machines and to go in to see them, which I do, but if course it was Sunday.

I can try in the morning tomorrow to see if the cash was drawn back in because I wasnt aware of anyone near when I left.

I remember taking the card but not the money and this is always the problem.
 
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