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poliski

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Hello. Please bear with me as this will be a lengthy post but i really need help with my ocd. I am 40 male, ever since my child hood i was attracted to other male hair especially wet or greased. In my college, i became a friend with a guy who had wonderful hair. i started getting aroused to see his hair. especially when they were wet. I would ask him what shampoo he uses and i would buy the same shampoo. soon , before i realized, i started looking at other people hair and asking for their shampoos. Even though, i myself was blessed with healthy hair , i was never satisfied. i just wanted that other person's hair and for me shampoo makes or breaks hair(even though people who dont use shampoo have better hair), not how much time they spend on hair , what styling products they use, what treatments they have carried out. In my subconscious it is always the shampoo that has given them such good hair .
For 20 years, i have used every shampoo of every brand and every type of that brand. I would use the shampoo little bit and then when and naturally i donot see the desired results (of the other person, as every one hair is different) i would buy another shampoo. for me hair is the only beauty a man has. if he has beautiful hair , he is beautiful and handsome

I have turned so obsessed that i would create annonymous instagram account and ask random people (famous or infamous) and ask them about the shampoo they use. if they answer back , my thirst is quench , if not i will keep asking them until either they respond or i feel guilty and then delete my account. but after few days i will create another account and do the same.
soon it became so bad that i would ask a random person walking on the street or working in the store, or at the mall or at the airport with good hair , about their shampoo. I feel so bad. 5 years ago , due to financial stress i lost my hair on the crown and front. also they turned gray so now i do not use that many shampoos , i do not buy that many shampoos but i still ask people about their shampoo and that gives me sense of satisfaction.
the other day i saw a youtube video featuring a random and an infamous man. i liked his hair. i googled him out, got his name, created Instagram account and ask him of his shampoo.

this is really frustrating and i feel guilty and sad. what are you analysis and how it can be treated.
 
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FlowerBox

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Hello and welcome...may I ask why do you feel guilty and sad about this? :hug1:
Sure it's the first time I've heard of something like this, but I don't think it's anything to feel guilty about 🙏
 
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Grubelnsucht

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Hello there! So you have a fetish. It’s fine - almost everyone has something sexually unique about them. If you don’t believe me, spend ten minutes on pornhub.
Since this is bothering you, though, you should think about talking to a sex therapist. Doing so DOES NOT make you a weirdo. People get help for these sorts of things all the time. A good therapist can help you find an outlet for these feelings that you find acceptable.
 
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poliski

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Hello there! So you have a fetish. It’s fine - almost everyone has something sexually unique about them. If you don’t believe me, spend ten minutes on pornhub.
Since this is bothering you, though, you should think about talking to a sex therapist. Doing so DOES NOT make you a weirdo. People get help for these sorts of things all the time. A good therapist can help you find an outlet for these feelings that you find acceptable.
i understand it is a fetish but that also falls under OCD. secondly, i am a married man and i am sexually aroused by other man's hair that is really creepy. But you're right, i will speak to some therapist about my problems.

thank you
 
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