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Shadow self

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We all have parts of us that we don't like, our shadow selves

Contemplating this after reading a book lately - it suggested that to rise above our shadow selfs, we must go back into it, become aware of it, be with it, instead of pushing it away.

This guy explains it much better:

'The aim of meeting the shadow is to develop an ongoing relationship with it. A right relationship with the shadow offers us the opportunity to uncover our buried potentials. Shadow-work requires perseverance, patience, discernment, and compassion. Meeting the shadow calls for slowing the pace of life, listening to the body’s cues, and allowing ourselves time to be alone in order to digest the hidden messages from the disconnected parts of our self. It requires that we simultaneously embrace both the world of light and the world of darkness. British Jungian analyst Liz Greene points to the paradoxical nature of the shadow as both the container of darkness and the beacon pointing toward light. “The shadow is both the awful thing that needs redemption, and the suffering redeemer who can provide it.” Through shadow-work we can:
•alter our self-sabotaging behaviors
•achieve a more genuine self-acceptance based on a more complete knowledge of whom we are
•defuse the negative emotions that erupt unexpectedly in our daily lives
•feel more free of guilt and shame associated with our negative feelings and actions
•recognize the projections that color our opinions of others
•heal our relationships through more honest self-examination and direct communication
•open ourselves to our natural talents and creativity that are buried' M Waltstrom
 
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The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.



-- Jelaluddin Rumi,
 
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