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sh or attention seeking?

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Caroline123

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I feel really guilty because i have sh i felt i needed to do it but i worry now I'm just attention seeking my head makes me feel crazy and i do it as a realise i think but i just don't know anymore please help
 
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Hiya

I doubt you are attention seeking, in fact most people who self harm, do not tell anyone. Even if you were attention seeking, then you need attention, so either way, don't stress that. SH is a symptom, not a cause, so ask yourself, what is the thought which occurs when you think of this. Then ask what emotion is caused but the thought. It is basic CBT. But the reality is much better than what I have described. But it helps to feel more in control, if you can identify thought, then emotion with SH as the action.

When you have isolated the thought, ask yourself to think of other ways to think about it, what other realities could there be etc.

Take care xx
 
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i'm in agreement with calypso.... i think the idea that self harm is a form of attention seeking stems from a general inability to understand or comprehend why people might hurt themselves. it's easier for society to call it attention seeking instead of sympathising with those who are hurting. people stigmatise those who are crying for help.... the phrase itself, 'a cry for help' has become negative, as if the pain of the individual seeking support is diminished by their actions. it doesn't matter whether the person who has harmed themselves wants someone to recognise their pain, or whether they're trying to punish themselves... regardless of the reason. anyone in pain deserves recognition and a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on, and someone to remind them of their worth as a human. whether you're a hormonal teenager or middle-aged and in crisis, your pain is valid. sh is an unhealthy way of dealing with it, but there's no need to feel guilty about trying to find some way of managing it.
 
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Thanks guys i told my friend just because i don't keep secrets from her but i didn't cry when i did it this time but its becoming unsafe because i have to control it so that i don't end up in a and e again. Also i think its about being able to physicaly look after myself if this makes sence?
 
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\Its about feeling like a worth while human being, which you are. What ever you think you have done that you can't cope with, SH will not help. I know, I have SH myself. It just leaves scars which need explaining later in life. Still, you have a friend you can talk to - obviously that friend values you a lot, so listen to that. Take care. xx
 
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