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sexual assault is messing up all my relationships

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buttman

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Feb 11, 2019
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manchester
i was assaulted at 14 by a 19 year old boy i then dated a girl who told me i was not a man because i didn't want to sleep with her i now have a boyfriend who is really sweet and understanding however i am scared that i will mess this up to because i cant shake the thoughts of what happened
 
KeenOldCadaver

KeenOldCadaver

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Feb 21, 2019
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Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
Hey, it's going to be alright. I'm sorry that happened to you, but that girl is totally wrong. Being a man isn't determined by wanting or not wanting to sleep with a girl. Furthermore, if your boyfriend is sweet and understanding, I'm sure that if you explain to him what happened to you (when and if you're ready), and how you feel about the potential of messing something up, I think it will be just fine. I feel that if he's truly understanding, he'd understand where you're coming from, and would be willing to work with whatever hurtles you're currently facing.

Those events are terrible. They stay with us for such a long time, and we often can't help how we feel about them. Good friends will help to support us through the worst times though, so if you feel comfortable, explain to your boyfriend why you're apprehensive, and he'll probably be more than happy to work with your fears as opposed to reject you because of them.
 
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khuang

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I understand what you went through. I was sexually assaulted myself at school when I was 15 by a classmate. I’m afraid that being touched the same way by any guy that wants to be with me and that I will freak out. I was actually told that I wasn’t gay because I didn’t like being touched that way.
 
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