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Severe loneliness and emptiness at weekends

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Hi

I'm a 27year old who has a diagnosis of BPD and complex PTSD. I also suffered significant injuries which has reduced my mobility following an accident. I'm very much on my own and don't have contact with family due to them being very abusive.

I'm in therapy and have been for awhile. It is very helpful but challenging. I don't take any medication particularly for BPD.

I just wonder what others do to cope with the intensity of the emptiness they experience?

Does anyone else find that weekends are the hardest?
 
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I find weekends hard, dread weekends go slowly, therapy is probably better than meds, I'll only ever take Mirtazapine nothing else.

Sundays I'll just sit & watch films all day there's plenty on the free view channels.
 
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if you are active during the week then not at the weekends it can get you down, maybe you just need to find a hobby or something you can do at the weekend
 
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hi ,im on my own the weekends too x can be hard depending on how ill I feel
the suggestion of finding a hobby sounds good
also I come on here and try and give support which makes me feel worthwhile
lots of love
Lu x
 
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Thanks for your support guys.

I do distract myself a lot and I study for uni as well but I'm not officially back til September as I'd to take a break to recover from my accident. I'm hoping il make new friends at uni..I just haven't had the opportunity yet.

A lot of time at the weekend is used fighting the inner conflict and emotions to try and enjoy watching Netflix or something. I hate that I can barely walk cos that was how I used to cope. I feel stuck at home in my flat at the weekend cos I'm too exhausted from my week and also cannot afford all the taxis getting about 😣

I have great professional support but that's all (it's great but I'd love friends or a partner when ready).

It truly is a battle and for anyone who goes through this I feel for yous too. The emptiness can be quite dangerous with risk taking or try to sleep the time away.

I'm terrified of next weekend because the Monday is a bank holiday and that's the day of my therapy so it won't be on. It will prove difficult 😕

Thanks x
 
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I read an article where patients with bpd were getting misdiagnosed with ptsd and vice versa. It could be the case for you, too. It sounds like you have been through a lot.

The good news is that ptsd does eventually lessen then disappears. It’s not for life. I had it for close to 10 years, and through therapy it quieted the noise in my head. But it took a lot of hard work, something you are probably familiar with.

What I found helped was keeping my mind busy, which also helps with bpd symptoms. You mention uni, maybe spend some time online investigating your new neighbourhood or reading some of the textbooks you’ll use ahead of time? Maybe look into meditation? It helped me tremendously.

Also keep a journal to write down your triggers, so that you can familiarize yourself and help steady yourself when you have an episode. Most importantly do not beat yourself up if you do. You endured trauma, you need to forgive yourself, frequently.

Also: You mention you are not able to walk right now, but could you go swimming? That may be an activity you can arrange on weekends that helps to reduce some of the energy associated with ptsd triggers.

Good luck! You can get through this. Xo
 
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