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My husband was diagnosed with psychosis about August 2010. Im only taking it seriously now because he hasnt. This is my second day into researching psychosis so that I can help my husband. I plan to make another appointment with the psychiatrist we met once last year and I'm making sure he takes the Risperidone he was prescribed last year but didnt actually take until now so I dont even know if its still good to take. The reason why Ive left it this long is because I thought my husband would get on top of it like normal, but now we've had a good talk he prefers that I give him his meds because he says sometimes he has voices telling him not to take it. I find it hard rationalising whether his stories are his mental illness or he is being a drama queen but I think its because he's been like this for such a long time and Im use to him being this way which I know is not normal. I want to be able to understand this more.
 
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Hi Kxpower

I hope that you will be able to find out more by looking through the forum - have you found the hearing voices part of the forum, this may be of some help to you. I also have voices but am on medication which mostly stops them now unless I am seriously stressed. Pyschosis is terrible and a lot of the time we are not aware when we are in it. I think its a good idea that you give your hubby the medication, I also think it is a good idea to follow up with the psychiatrist.

Wishing you luck and keep us posted.

KS
 
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My husband was diagnosed with psychosis about August 2010. Im only taking it seriously now because he hasnt. This is my second day into researching psychosis so that I can help my husband. I plan to make another appointment with the psychiatrist we met once last year and I'm making sure he takes the Risperidone he was prescribed last year but didnt actually take until now so I dont even know if its still good to take. The reason why Ive left it this long is because I thought my husband would get on top of it like normal, but now we've had a good talk he prefers that I give him his meds because he says sometimes he has voices telling him not to take it. I find it hard rationalising whether his stories are his mental illness or he is being a drama queen but I think its because he's been like this for such a long time and Im use to him being this way which I know is not normal. I want to be able to understand this more.
Hi and welcome! :welcome:

The Hearing Voices Network in New Zealand might be an interesting organisation to make contact with. Here is a link to a web page on their support groups: http://hearingvoicesnetworkanz.wordpress.com/support-groups/

They are part of Intervoice, the International Movement for people who hear voices, an organisation we have close links with. Their website might be a useful source of information: http://www.intervoiceonline.org

I notice a good friend of the forum Ron Coleman will be speaking in Auckland in a couple of months. I would really recommend going if you can. He is very well known and respected internationally. Here are the details: http://hearingvoicesnetworkanz.wordpress.com/2011/03/21/ron-coleman-workshops-in-auckland-and-wellington/

We have a hearing voice section on the forum where people can share their experiences. It can be found here: http://www.mentalhealthforum.net/forum/forumdisplay.php?99-Hearing-Voices

I hope this helps!

Welcome once again!! :welcome:
I hope you enjoy your stay with us here!

Ka kite ano!
 
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Psychposis help

Are you North or South Island. I have a nephew in #Taumaranui.
 
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If he has psychosis I recommend taking the medication immediately. The voices should stop its what the medication is for. I'm pretty sure for psychosis the medication stops all symptoms (it does for me), unlike other mental illness where you have to live with hearing voices.
 
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Is it North or South Island where the earthquake happened? Whichever I hope everyone is O.K. and coping.
 
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Hi! It's good that your husband now wants y ou to give him his meds. Has he seena psychiarist? I don't know what the system is over yur way, bu we have Teams here, with a psychiatrist, Pschiatric Nurse, Social worker, and some others. It is very hard for the carers, and Mental Health Care is not as good as it should be - seems lke anywhere. Yet it is a universal problem,and I think it is increasing with the World situation.
Persuade your husband to see either his G.P. or the psychiatrist again. It is important that he takes their advice about medication. There are a lot on the market now, but not one fits all, so it may take a little sorting out. Over here we now have(or should have) a system whee the carer's needs are also considered, and it is good if they can have a weekly break to do what they want to do. Let usknow how you get on. Are y ou Native N.Z. or from over here? Tell us a little about yourself. It is a country I have always thought I would like to visit, but I am too old now. Please keep in contact.
 
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Hi Maudikie

It wasnt that my husband wanted to get back on the meds but it was the fact that it was getting really hard to live with him. I went through a whole lot of stress in the last couple of years because I had to support him while he was studying!!!! I knew it wasnt normal the amount of stress I had to go through, I changed my shifts at work so many times for him, basically planned my whole life around him, tried to make his life really easy but every time it failed, I always thought to myself 'this cant be right?' - I talked to my friends/family and I got the same response 'that all males are the same' but I knew deep down it was something more. I started to pick up on the strange things he did more and more especially when we would drive and how it was like his vision was narrow, like he couldnt see turning cars (because we give way to the right) because he's too busy thinking... so I felt I was at the point of a breakdown, because I had tried to fix it soo many times not knowing it was something I couldnt do anything about so thats when I gave my husband the ultimatum of seeing a doctor or moving out, Im so glad that happened because everything is so much clearer, I'm mad that this wasnt picked up earlier and why after being diagnosed last year by a psychiatrist noone has done a followup to see how we are. Owell Im gonna make sure he gets well because he wants to get study for his Masters next year!! we'll have to see about that!

Its been two weeks since my husband started back on his meds, Im monitoring him so I can advise the psychiatrist which we have booked in for the 29th of this month. For the first 5 days he was great! he was bouncing around I didnt have to remind him to do anything! we even had a great time talking to eachother and we were even on the same page! then 6th day I hardly saw him, he was busy busy and I dont even think it was anything important, he wasnt himself, he was restless and I even forgot to give him his meds because he wasnt around, he would basically just say hi & bye. 7th day he was tired and hallucinations were worse than before and I made sure to give him his meds. Since then he's had no energy, always sleepy we havent really had proper conversations. With my husband I know he tries so hard so he's awake even when he's tired and but being awake means he's always falling asleep so I dont know whether its better for him just to stay in bed or fight to stay up. I cant wait to see the psychiatrist and I will definitely keep you posted.

About me: I am almost 28years old, born in New Zealand and Im of Tongan descent. NZ is beautiful to live in and I wouldnt live anywhere else. I live in the biggest city in New Zealand which is Auckland in the North Island. The quake was on the south island.
 
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Glaad you are getting things soted and hooope it will be better when you have seen the psychiatrist. It someitimes takes a ehile toget the right medication, but if h e has pills and forges them there are pill boxes you can buy at the ppharmacits's with th days marked on them, and you can put out the doses for the week. They are a good reminder. soome have sections you can take out of te box with a day's supply and take o ut with you. I hope all goes well with his studies. Theey are themselves quite stressfull., so he needs plenty of sleep and rest. Best wishes.
 
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Hi Maudikie

It wasnt that my husband wanted to get back on the meds but it was the fact that it was getting really hard to live with him. I went through a whole lot of stress in the last couple of years because I had to support him while he was studying!!!! I knew it wasnt normal the amount of stress I had to go through, I changed my shifts at work so many times for him, basically planned my whole life around him, tried to make his life really easy but every time it failed, I always thought to myself 'this cant be right?' - I talked to my friends/family and I got the same response 'that all males are the same' but I knew deep down it was something more. I started to pick up on the strange things he did more and more especially when we would drive and how it was like his vision was narrow, like he couldnt see turning cars (because we give way to the right) because he's too busy thinking... so I felt I was at the point of a breakdown, because I had tried to fix it soo many times not knowing it was something I couldnt do anything about so thats when I gave my husband the ultimatum of seeing a doctor or moving out, Im so glad that happened because everything is so much clearer, I'm mad that this wasnt picked up earlier and why after being diagnosed last year by a psychiatrist noone has done a followup to see how we are. Owell Im gonna make sure he gets well because he wants to get study for his Masters next year!! we'll have to see about that!

Its been two weeks since my husband started back on his meds, Im monitoring him so I can advise the psychiatrist which we have booked in for the 29th of this month. For the first 5 days he was great! he was bouncing around I didnt have to remind him to do anything! we even had a great time talking to eachother and we were even on the same page! then 6th day I hardly saw him, he was busy busy and I dont even think it was anything important, he wasnt himself, he was restless and I even forgot to give him his meds because he wasnt around, he would basically just say hi & bye. 7th day he was tired and hallucinations were worse than before and I made sure to give him his meds. Since then he's had no energy, always sleepy we havent really had proper conversations. With my husband I know he tries so hard so he's awake even when he's tired and but being awake means he's always falling asleep so I dont know whether its better for him just to stay in bed or fight to stay up. I cant wait to see the psychiatrist and I will definitely keep you posted.

About me: I am almost 28years old, born in New Zealand and Im of Tongan descent. NZ is beautiful to live in and I wouldnt live anywhere else. I live in the biggest city in New Zealand which is Auckland in the North Island. The quake was on the south island.
Hi kxpower,
I hope your husband soon settles down so that he is able to begin effective treatment. Medication can be very helpful to control symptoms like struggling to get some sleep, lessening the disturbing voices and hallucinations. They provide a 'sanctuary' and relief from the nightmare of 'anomalous experience'-that is experience that is not 'homolous' or the same or normal.

I speak from the perspective of one who has recovered from so-called schizophrenia in my early 20's & am now a Doctor of Psychotherapy Practice on no medication! I say this to encourage you. My research thesis concerned 'madness' & 'spirituality' with participants who like myself are now mental health professional and have experienced severe mental illness. I've attached below the a diagram that shows how we all recovered. The 'Affect Tools' include exercise to reduce stress-levels (adrenaline is lessened, endorphin-the happiness hormone increased), meditation (check out mindfulness) to calm and doing 'earthy' things like digging or planting. Realistically your husband may not yet be in a place where he do this yet.

I hope this helps and please ask if you want to know more. I've attached a handout about what we can do to get a good nights sleep & that's so important for relief.

Roger
 

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maudikie

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I am glad you have had this advice from a p[rofessional. It is not easy being a carer to someone you love dearly. You must also loo after y ourself. If you have mentl health teams I suggest that you get one that you can contact if you are having any difficulties. It is important that he gets rest, exercise and a good diet, but too much sleep might indicate that he is not so well. Some patients become very withdrawn which shows thaat the balance is not yet right. His studies will doubtless be quite difficult for him, and again I should get some advice about the wisdom of him going on for his Masters. I do hope that thigs go right for you and him. Incidentally, is there any history of mental distress in his fmily, and I would also like to know his age, astwe are trying to find out why it should so often start in a certain age group.
 
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