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Self improvement plan - critique me?

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Bigkev1983

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Hi guys

I think everyone on this site is here because we're in the process of recovery from something. For me, social anxiety was a small thing and then I head a health issue that made things a ton worse. But I’m making some good progress now. Right now, I'm about 3/4 into rehabilitation - I don't want to say what for at this stage as it might taint your response. But I'd like to ask a big favour.

This is a movie capture (caught candidly) of me having a conversation in the office. I thought by posting it online, it'd be a good way to get some unbiased feedback as to how I'm coming across at the moment. Obviously my family & friends will only say very kind things to me... and the professionals who have helped me during recovery obviously didn't know me before hand.

Here it is: https://1drv.ms/v/s!Asn3t4qxRNagikLJH1Ep3IP5WSp7

Could you take a look at the clip and give me your first impressions? In other words, what would your unbiased opinion be in terms of the way I'm coming across at the moment. Honesty is critical for me making a good recovery because part of what I do involves me selling and sometimes presenting ideas. And we all know perception is 9 tenths of the law! But sometimes our body language, communication style or voice tone betrays our good heart and we might come across as insincere, arrogant or just plain soft.

In some ways, it's not the best clip because I'm working on my iMac as I'm talking but in other ways it's ideal because it's candid and therefore a reflection of where I am right now without thinking about it. So what I'm looking for is - if this is the first impression you had of me, am I coming over as hard-faced/insecure/about right? Arrogant/weak/about right? Good communicator/poor communicator? Friendly/unfriendly, sincere/insincere, etc.

Your honest feedback about first impressions will seriously help me get back much faster so all sincere comments - the positives and negatives - are greatly appreciated.

P.S. I'm looking for both male and female opinions too because at some point I'll be throwing myself back into the dating pool too. So it'd help me greatly if you say in your comment whether your a guy or a girl : )
 
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Boring

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if you are mentally ill, some people might treat you differently regardless of your progress. also, i'm wondering why the video isn't on youtube. i don't trust video links outside of youtube.
 
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Bigkev1983

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Fair enough, I didn't think about posting it on YouTube to be honest. It's legit though, did you look at the vid?
 
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