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im feeling like everything is my fault i cant get a relationship with a girl i feel like i am just worthless i feel like im a lost cause so i self harm. each injury reminds me how much of a failure i am i feel like killing myself, i feel like im a lost cause i feel like i wont ever get a girlfriend even tho i am only 21 i dont get why i have the most good qualties a girl would like in a man im kind, caring, loving, cute, honest, loyal romantic ... i dont feel like ill ever be like other guys im a deinate failure
 
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Tom, being single does not make you a failure. You may just not have had many opportunities to meet somebody. You do not need to punish yourself. Have you ever had any therapy and does your doctor know you self harm?
 
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Have you ever tried making the first move?
 
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im feeling like everything is my fault i cant get a relationship with a girl i feel like i am just worthless i feel like im a lost cause so i self harm. each injury reminds me how much of a failure i am i feel like killing myself, i feel like im a lost cause i feel like i wont ever get a girlfriend even tho i am only 21 i dont get why i have the most good qualties a girl would like in a man im kind, caring, loving, cute, honest, loyal romantic ... i dont feel like ill ever be like other guys im a deinate failure
Self harms won't improve your situation :hug:
 
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ive tried everything girls just make me feel liek tis cause they comment how weird i am and stuff like that
 
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Could it be you need more therapy?
 
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tried them they dont work for my city / country cause of girls attitudes and personality here
 
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i feel like im the problem thats why ishouldnt exist im a mistake
You are not a mistake. It sounds like you just lack self esteem and not having a girlfriend is making you feel worthless.
 
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girls have attacked me its not my self esteem im just gonna keep hurting myself cause i feel like everyone thinks im the one who is crazy
 
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