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self harm urges :(



Active member
Nov 15, 2019
today was terrible and i had a bit of a breakdown. now i’m just feeling kind of numb but i’m getting self harm urges. idk i’ve noticed that whenever i go through things like this, before i can “be happy” again or do anything relating to taking care of myself, i’d feel the urge to self harm or else i wouldn’t deserve it. this is going to sound really dumb but right now i just want to watch a movie to make myself feel better and for a some godawful reason my brain is telling me that i have to hurt myself before i can. i’m just frustrated because i don’t really want to do it but i can’t stop thinking about it, and it’s like i’m frozen, not being able to do anything, unless i give in to the urges. i hate this. it’s literally just a movie, something so simple yet i still can’t do it. for christ sakes i just want to watch a f*cking movie .


Well-known member
Jan 5, 2011
Hiya. Its become a compulsive thought and they are so difficult to ignore. I understand. Just try a simple Mindfulness exercise and see if it can break you out of the sense of being frozen.



Apr 13, 2020
uk, street
hey, you may have the urge to self harm but you always have the desire not to, this constant back and forth is the mindful debate you are having. Your aware of this, you know you want to beat it. How to beat is something for yourself to discover and how you beat it must be your choice, no one else can do this for you. We can relate here, plenty of us self harm and just like other mental health issues you gotta control it. I believe in you! :hug:(y)


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Jul 7, 2020
Negativity is telling you to do it. Resist negativity and fight back.
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