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DIA

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Hiya
I need your help and advice..
I have many years self harm scars..
I'm ok now Except fact that my small scars are visible..people sometimes notice...not always reaction is ok...
I'm tired of being afraid of others reaction
I'm.tired to try to hide my scars..
I'm afraid that if i will meet some man and start relationship He will reject me as soon as will see my scars..
When I went to laser clinic they said how much it will cost its expensive..not sure if i can afford
It upsets me a lot..
What would you do instead of me
I will be grateful and glad to get any advice from you
Thank you x
 
midnightphoenix

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If you meet someone and he asks about the scars, maybe either just say to him that you had a accident or maybe tell him that yuo went through a rough time? :hug:
 
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DIA

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So..you think I could be fine without laser treatment for scars?
 
Fairy Lucretia

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if he truly loved you he wouldn't care about your scars
have you heard of bio oil? that is supposed to be really good at fading scars appearance
I really don't think laser treatment would be needed would be very expensive
love u xxx
 
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DIA

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if he truly loved you he wouldn't care about your scars
have you heard of bio oil? that is supposed to be really good at fading scars appearance
I really don't think laser treatment would be needed would be very expensive
love u xxx
No i never heard of bilo oil
Could you please write more?
 
Fairy Lucretia

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No i never heard of bilo oil
Could you please write more?
you can get it from amazon
or chemists
you rub it into your scars for 3 months and it helps them fade
just google bio oil and it will give you more information xxx
 
simonr1978

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you can get it from amazon
or chemists
you rub it into your scars for 3 months and it helps them fade
just google bio oil and it will give you more information xxx
Thanks Fairy Lucretia, do you know if it really helps or if it's mostly just marketing? I can cope with exposing my scars to UV for a while if it would make a difference, but I'd rather avoid awkward questions if I can.
 
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sadpunchingbag

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Tattoos are a good way I am sure you can google images of before and after some artists really I mean really make a difference it recommend if you do please YouTube how to find a Tattoo artist so many crap ones due to the ease to get tattoo equipment also using others work online hope you feel better :hug5:
 
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I've asked about bio oil and whilst it can apparently help scars heal, it cannot eliminate them completely. It helps most IIRC if you start between the 3-30 day mark, you shouldn't use it on open wounds but the earlier you use it the better. Massage it in a circular motion over the scar twice a day. Good luck and please let us know how you get on.
 
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sadpunchingbag

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I've asked about bio oil and whilst it can apparently help scars heal, it cannot eliminate them completely. It helps most IIRC if you start between the 3-30 day mark, you shouldn't use it on open wounds but the earlier you use it the better. Massage it in a circular motion over the scar twice a day. Good luck and please let us know how you get on.
Depends on how raw the scar is the quicker you use it the better for example when it’s purple that is th best time to apply bio oil I do it on stretch marks
 
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Up to a point, I was advised not to use bio-oil on open wounds, so fresh wounds or those that were still in the initial healing stage which is up to 3 days should be avoided, but as soon as possible after that is good and the sooner the better.
 
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Vivienneh

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I have an arm and a leg full of scars and a semi colon tattoo and I work as a professional and don’t cover them up. Sure people look and see but they rarely ask. It’s not taboo these days. If some one asks tell them as much or as little as you’re comfortable with
 
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Recently a nurse asked me if i was a chef and pointed to my scars . I looked her in the eye and told her what they were . She was completely embarrassed. They are a part of me and I refuse to be ashamed of them . I think it shows strength to come through difficult times and you are the person you are today because of that . Any partner either accepts them or not ( in which case they are not worth the effort) you can't hide them so own them
 
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