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Leogirl1983

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Hi!! I self harmed today as my partner has been messaging other women, telling them how pretty, sexy, hot etc.... I caught him before and promised he wouldn't do it again!! Little did I know that he was messaging my ex ex best friend who told a lot of people my partner was bad to me and didn't let me go out anywhere, then to find a message telling her in April last year that she was still a good, hot woman!! I self-harmed bad today!! I've had totally enough!! I just want to smash the house up!! He said it was lies but I seen the messages!! I do have to give my ex ex best friend her dues, she didnt reply!! I've totally had enough, I cant do this anymore!! I'm hurt so much I literally HATE him!! I've no fight left in me at all!! I'm so unhappy atm!! 13 years and 7 months and 1 week and 3 days is a lot to give up but I'm not being used like that anymore!! 😪😔😥😭💔💔💔!!
 
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He is the one that has given it up. He has decided, he made the choice, now you have to give him what he clearly wants which is to be free and single. The decision is made, it is done, twice now (that you know of). If he loved you he would not have done this. 100%

You deserve so much better.

Better, is without him.

ANYTHING or ANYONE that makes you self harm or angry must go

In my opinion, you shouldn't have taken him back the first time. We have to protect our mental health like nothing else.

This is just my opinion and how i would deal with my life. Nothing is worth risking my life for. I deserve a man who loves me and treats me as well as i love and treat him.
 
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Leogirl1983

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Tawny thank u for commenting on this!! I totally agree with u!! My mummy knows wat has happened, she is disgusted!! My mental health has been good the past 2 years!! Between being sectioned and under the crisis home treatment team numerous times!! I just cant cope with any of it!!

I'm ringing my mental health in the morning at 9am to get someone to talk to!!

I agree, I do deserve better!!
Thanks xx
 
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TheSadnessWillLastForever

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Girl dump that bastard, you deserve waaaayyyy better than that loser!!!!
 
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Leogirl1983

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Believe me, I've had enough!!
I'm done!!
No going back now

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I'm really glad you're done with him. Someone who acts like him deserves to get dumped. I've had a couple of times during the past 10 months where I hurt myself with my own hands. I've had to learn new coping mechanisms. In particular, I've used ice water or ice packs on my face to trigger the dive reflex. It helped get me out of the highly emotional mindset. It also helps to go through CBT worksheets once I'm calmer questioning the negative thoughts I was having when I self harmed or felt like self harming. Sometimes, the intense emotional pain comes as a result of believing lies. I hope you are feeling a little better now.
 

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