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Self-defeating behavioral patterns in reaction to long-term depression



New member
Jan 1, 2020
Hi everyone, I'm going to try to be as to the point as possible with this: as I wrote in the introduction post, I've been dealing with depression ever since I can recall (I'm in my mid thirties now) and I've seen a number of professionalists over the years, but we never managed to solve my issues and so in trying to deal with reality, I would take on these huge undertakings (like learning to play an instrument, writing a screenplay) that require a massive amount of effort to do.

The thing is, after a couple of years of staying super-focused on such an undertaking/hobby, interest tends to taper off and I find myself staring into the abyss again, metaphorically speaking.

It's probably a good idea to set one's mind to something other than one's problems, but at the same time, doing so doesn't solve the underlying problems, it just makes one sort of forget about them for a while.

I was wondering if anybode else has noticed such a pattern of behavior in themselves?



Active member
Jan 1, 2020
Hi there,

I can understand this. I have been diagnosed with severe depression and have been dealing with it for as long as I can remember. For the last year and half I have lost interest in all of my hobbies.. I'm currently trying to dig deep to get myself back into a healthy activity to pull myself out of my dark place.

Best of luck to you!


Well-known member
Nov 27, 2019
Hi Avalonpete,

I would say sticking to a massive undertaking for a couple of years is good going in my experience, especially for a hobby.

I have one thing I have played for many years but that is the only thing I have stuck with. I take time out from it when I get bored and need a break. Other pursuits like sports I get into for a while (sometimes months) then fall away from again.

To answer your question I find this is a "normal" pattern of behaviour however it seems to concern you.

What issues are you trying to resolve?

Welcome to the forum :)



Well-known member
Dec 17, 2019
London, ON
For me, dropping a past time means I'm more depressed than usual. And, I think not having an outlet kind of past time can give you depression. I mean, some activities keep you moving, or calm, and give you little successes or achievments to make days seem worthwhile.

I gave up art for nearly 10 years, but I find, now, if I don't do some at least every week, I get unhappy.
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