Schizophrenia and noisy neighbours

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That is a fair point when the noise is part of a delusion. My husband and I have been there too. But an actual noisy neighbour can be torturous.
and if you complain they'll put it down to your mental illness not crap social housing, iy seems sad that the guy puts down his problems in social housing to his illness it could be alll social housing is crap
 
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That is a fair point when the noise is part of a delusion. My husband and I have been there too. But an actual noisy neighbour can be torturous.
When you have had an actual noisy neighbour ,I think you will become overly sensitive to noise afterwards.Before I had a noisy neighbour I ignored all sorts of sounds, especially music, Iam ultra alert now. Before I snapped ,I had another noisy neighbour on the other side of me, who was worse as their home is attached to mine. So the bass music would pound my walls. It was random times as well. So never knew when it would happen. I endured two years of that, then the other clown moved in the other side, and to boot he was a druggie. I went completely beserk one night. Ironically ,it's weird how things worked out, as I got a lot more support which I probably needed from mh services before but I didn't want nothing to do with them. It was basically either accept our help or we will take you to court and lock you up kind of thing.

Iam actually doing better now.
 
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and if you complain they'll put it down to your mental illness not crap social housing, iy seems sad that the guy puts down his problems in social housing to his illness it could be alll social housing is crap
It's not just social housing is crap round here, most streets are. I blame it in part on the by to let thing.
 
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It's not just social housing is crap round here, most streets are. I blame it in part on the by to let thing.
i'm not enamoured of the buy to let house next door either

had 3 rings on bell last night, last time at 3 in the morning i went to the window, no one there, as i couldn't sleep afterwards i researched cctv on the net, bought one battery operated that has a motion sensor that if truggered photographs to a sm card, know how to read cards from a digital phitography course

my neighbour is been difficult and saying i have to inform the housing assoc if i install, i pointed out she didn't when she installed the security light, if i do they'll say something beurocratic like they want detailed plans, she may accept it if it's installed by my handymab who used to work for the housing assoc

if i find it's drunken youths or kids complaining could make things worse unfortunately

it is that time when some kids leave school and get drunk until they go on to whatever
 
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I suffer from various mental health problems including delusions and depression, and I have a very noisy female neighbour next to me who doesn't work and likes to be in all the time. I want to move, but it's very difficult for me to motivate myself. She was suppose to be in temporary accommodation but she has been next to me for over 3 years by herself in a 2 bedroom house. I'm living in Newham in London, and when I talk to the council about my plight they simply don't want to know. It's very difficult for me, and not surprisingly it's making my condition a lot worse. She is always listening to loud music and I can hear it in every part of my house.
Has anyone got any suggestions because it's difficult for me to know what to do other than to go out as much as possible and try to motivate myself to move.
I've been going through hell, I would be much better and weller if she would quieten down. Yes I have talked to her and asked her to quieten things down, and she calls me a bully for that reason. :curseyou:
I have a suggestion. Don't move!! Buy a bass guitar and big amp. When it gets too much play it full blast. Give her a taste of her own medicine! Its not fair that she's ruining your quality of life. I know it sounds childish stereo wars but it will make her think that she needs to stop shitting on you all the time!
 
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i'm not enamoured of the buy to let house next door either

had 3 rings on bell last night, last time at 3 in the morning i went to the window, no one there, as i couldn't sleep afterwards i researched cctv on the net, bought one battery operated that has a motion sensor that if truggered photographs to a sm card, know how to read cards from a digital phitography course

my neighbour is been difficult and saying i have to inform the housing assoc if i install, i pointed out she didn't when she installed the security light, if i do they'll say something beurocratic like they want detailed plans, she may accept it if it's installed by my handymab who used to work for the housing assoc

if i find it's drunken youths or kids complaining could make things worse unfortunately

it is that time when some kids leave school and get drunk until they go on to whatever
We used to have security cameras when we lived in a bad area. The neighbours weren't very happy about it. The police told us you can only film on your own property (So you can't capture the road going past or the neighbours gardens on it) You can get those doorbells now that film people who ring the doorbell and link to your phone with an intercom (So you can pretend to be in when you are not) I don't know how that would work if you have shared access though.
 
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I have a suggestion. Don't move!! Buy a bass guitar and big amp. When it gets too much play it full blast. Give her a taste of her own medicine! Its not fair that she's ruining your quality of life. I know it sounds childish stereo wars but it will make her think that she needs to stop shitting on you all the time!

That would work with some people who are just thoughtless , you have to understand most likely you are dealing with the dregs of society whether it's upbringing or something missing or added to the brain I have no idea. She could either not even notice , because she is so drugged up or she thinks that kind of noise is normal and carry on her own noise, or will notice and not understand that if she lowered her own volume the noise would lessen, but instead become angry and be even more antisocial.

Really I despise people like her, because anyone with a little bit of decency or common sense would realise blasting music like that would upset other people, in fact even if she didn't care about other people ,she would still not want trouble coming to her door so she would be mindful of her behaviour. Most likely if you get a neighbour who blasts music in the first place you are completely screwed, they won't listen to you, they won't listen to the police/landlord because you have to realise you aren't dealing with normal people here and it will be difficult to get rid once they are moved in thanks to the weak laws in this country.

The only things that truly solve it, are either moving out {which can be difficult }, or violence {because thats the only message they truly understand but if you go down that route you will have to risk getting in legal trouble yourself,someone down my gym gave a noisy neighbour a terrible beating and they moved out within several days
 
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I have a suggestion. Don't move!! Buy a bass guitar and big amp. When it gets too much play it full blast. Give her a taste of her own medicine! Its not fair that she's ruining your quality of life. I know it sounds childish stereo wars but it will make her think that she needs to stop shitting on you all the time!
theres bloscks of social housing i pass were theres loud music blasting from every window must be hell

in evil in the past communist russia stereos are sold with a limit on the bass they can produce
 
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We used to have security cameras when we lived in a bad area. The neighbours weren't very happy about it. The police told us you can only film on your own property (So you can't capture the road going past or the neighbours gardens on it) You can get those doorbells now that film people who ring the doorbell and link to your phone with an intercom (So you can pretend to be in when you are not) I don't know how that would work if you have shared access though.
i spoke to the housing officer she said theres strict rules about privacy and communal areas, i said what about harrasssment she said call the police i said you know the police won't do anything isn;t it the housing associations responsibility she said you have to identify them, i said thats why i want the cctv

just cancelled the order on e bay hope it hasn't been dispatched
 
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i spoke to the housing officer she said theres strict rules about privacy and communal areas, i said what about harrasssment she said call the police i said you know the police won't do anything isn;t it the housing associations responsibility she said you have to identify them, i said thats why i want the cctv

just cancelled the order on e bay hope it hasn't been dispatched
I've had CCTV put around my house for nearly 4 years now. I have 3 cameras at the front and one at the rear. The one at the rear now points towards her garden. The ones at the front look down the road on all sides as well as my front path. The council gave me permission and the police were totally happy about it and praised the CCTV when they saw it working one day, so I don't think your housing association know what they are talking about. Keep your order!
Since I had the CCTV put it no-one bangs at my door anymore.
 
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That would work with some people who are just thoughtless , you have to understand most likely you are dealing with the dregs of society whether it's upbringing or something missing or added to the brain I have no idea. She could either not even notice , because she is so drugged up or she thinks that kind of noise is normal and carry on her own noise, or will notice and not understand that if she lowered her own volume the noise would lessen, but instead become angry and be even more antisocial.

Really I despise people like her, because anyone with a little bit of decency or common sense would realise blasting music like that would upset other people, in fact even if she didn't care about other people ,she would still not want trouble coming to her door so she would be mindful of her behaviour. Most likely if you get a neighbour who blasts music in the first place you are completely screwed, they won't listen to you, they won't listen to the police/landlord because you have to realise you aren't dealing with normal people here and it will be difficult to get rid once they are moved in thanks to the weak laws in this country.

The only things that truly solve it, are either moving out {which can be difficult }, or violence {because thats the only message they truly understand but if you go down that route you will have to risk getting in legal trouble yourself,someone down my gym gave a noisy neighbour a terrible beating and they moved out within several days
You are absolutely right. I have tried turning on my speakers loud when she turns on hers, it does absolutely no good at all, in fact she retaliates with even more loud music than before! That sort of thing simply doesn't work whatever they say.
Like you say, we are dealing with the dregs of society here.
 
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It sucks having to move because of someone else's behaviour, but if it's any consolation we are really glad we did as we now have lovely quiet neighbours on both sides and are much happier. My husband was at snapping point too and we wanted to avoid that. Our current house although it is not in such a nice area overall is so peaceful all I can hear right now is our boiler, distant traffic and the wind. Good luck in finding somewhere that suits you better.
I had a look at two flats yesterday, and because I have a house I am being really spoilt for choice as there are plenty of people in a one bedroom flats who need two bedroom houses. I was really encouraged by both flats, they are both suitable, the only drawback is they have boiler houses which costs money because the price of hot water and heating is always a bit steep, so I will keep looking.
 
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I had a bit of good news, the noise police or environmental health caught her in the act with her loud music at 11.30pm last Friday! I called them at 10.15pm when I got home because the music was so loud it felt like the house was shaking! :panic: They finally got round my house at 11.25pm and although she had turned the music down a bit it was deemed as being excessive by the council, so they are going to write to her landlord at long last because hers is a private house, and mine is council owned. They said they willing to start making a case against her. They went round to talk to her after and I noticed that she was doing all the talking to start with, no doubt slagging me off as she always does, and accusing me of absolutely everything.
I also saw one of my local councilors on Saturday and she has written to the council about my concerns, and forwarded me that email.
Yesterday and today I haven't heard a peep out of that woman next door!
 
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It's good that she has a private landlord, as they are more likely to take action than the council. Our noise neighbour was in a council flat and we were told they couldn't evict him because they had to house him somewhere and his behaviour was not appropriate anywhere, so he basically got to ignore ignore the court orders about noise with no consequences :sorry: really glad that there seems to have been some positive improvements for you.
 
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I've had CCTV put around my house for nearly 4 years now. I have 3 cameras at the front and one at the rear. The one at the rear now points towards her garden. The ones at the front look down the road on all sides as well as my front path. The council gave me permission and the police were totally happy about it and praised the CCTV when they saw it working one day, so I don't think your housing association know what they are talking about. Keep your order!
Since I had the CCTV put it no-one bangs at my door anymore.
i think it's more the neighbour who is a difficult to get on with elderly women, she complained about me mounting it on her front wall, i guess compared to some neighbours i should count my blessings, ahe even insists certain bins are hers, shouts at me if i don't immediately close the front door and is difficult to get on with

i've cancelled the order got refunded i doubt i could reorder easily and the housing assoc has refused if i go against them
 
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