Schema therapy??

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Hi Mathero

The book is good isn't it? I find it very easy to read and my psychologist gives me the worksheets to do for homework. They can be very hard and painful to do.

I am in the Uk, North Wales, where about are you?

I am currently on antidepressants and antipsychotics. Have you done DBT too?

Feel free to pm me anytime if you wish to. Take care :hug:
 
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Yes, it's pretty good - I've not actually looked at it for a while. Sounds like your psychologist is taking a wee bit of a different approach than mine, I guess they will all do it slightly different though :)

I'm in Scotland. No, never done anything gets other than a short round of cbt before. I guess I was very skeptical of therapy in the past If I'm honest.

Yes, that would be cool, thanks :) Not sure how to pm on this Though? I really am a newbee lol
 
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Did more schema work today. Did some mode work and then looked at behaviour. It was hard. I was close to crying at one point. It was good though. Psychologist was really nice to me. He's told me to get a Dictaphone so he can record some messages for me that I can listen to in between sessions. I've ordered one and it should arrive tomorrow. He's also told me to read my book and do the exercises when things get too much so we can go over them together.
 
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Did a bit of schema work today. He recorded some messages for me on my Dictaphone. They sound good, I hope they will help. I don't see him now for 3 weeks. It is a long time. I am struggling already. Apparently I need to work on getting rid of my detach protector and stop binge eating on comfort food.
 
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Hi Mami, sorry I've not been on for a while. Three weeks is quite a long stretch, you can do it though. The dictaphone thing is such a good idea. My therapy is going good - im also still doing a lot of binge eating though :(
 
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Hi Mami, thank you for sharing your experiences. I've been considering schema therapy for a while and your posts are very helpful in helping me decide whether or not I can handle it.

I'm glad to know someone else has panicked about killing their inner child. It makes me optimistic that you found them again.
 
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Hi SquareEyes and :welcome: among us.

I'm glad you found my posts helpful. I know schema is a very hard therapy to do but I would recommend it. It is the only therapy that has given me any hope of recovery. I wish you good luck with it if you do decide to give it a go.
 
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We did some imagery work regarding my self harm yesterday. It was hard, painful at times, but good. He talked me through it and kept me safe. He then recorded three more messages on my Dictaphone that were relevant to the session.
 
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My punitive critic is playing up. Psychologist has named her Bully. She keeps telling me that he's not good for me and that I should hurt myself. Psychologist told me off yesterday for self harming on Monday, but she tells me to do it again, on other arm now. He's meant to be defending me from the Bully, he's not doing a good job of it.
 
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Did work regarding my Compliance Surrender Mode today. Psychologist reckons about half of his clients suffer with it but it is me who comes to mind when he thinks about it or if it is mentioned. I have it badly. I am a slave to others. I knew I was a people pleaser but hadn't realised how bad I was suffering with it. When he blames me for things he says he understands it is not my fault it is the modes, which I can't control. Basically it is ruling and ruining my life. I am so scared of being rejected. I am desperate to be loved. I've never felt real love. Need to feel safe too. Am too vulnerable at the moment and this mode does not help.

Believe there's a lot of hard work ahead of me if I am to overcome this schema let alone the rest of them. Having Punitive Critic forever putting me down does not help.
 
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Still working on Compliant Surrender Mode. I have it bad. Psychologist says it is worse than he thought and he thought it was bad. This is because I told him I want to please him all the time. He thought this was very ironic. I am suppose to attend therapy for help, instead I go to please him! Compliant Surrender has totally taken control of my life. I am totally a people pleaser.

We also talked about social isolation on Thursday. He wants me to socialise more. I have arranged to go to drop-in on Wednesday. Think he'll be pleased about that, my CPN was when I told her yesterday.
 
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My Punitive Critic has taken over. It is telling me allsorts. Nothing nice. I can't stop it. I have lost control.
 
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Punitive Critic is telling me to do something bad, says I'm no good.

Need to tell psychologist about it all tomorrow. Need it to stop. Don't like it.
 
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Told psychologist about the messages I keep getting. He ignored it at first but took more notice when I was close to tears. We recorded messages together but I didn't believe them. He said as soon as I make progress the modes return with a vengeance and I deteriorate again. So I'm in a bad way and he says he'll see me in 2 weeks and to keep safe! That's easier said than done!
 
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Believe my detach protector has fully returned and taken over. I feel so numb. Can't even think properly about what I'm facing right now let alone know how I feel about it all. It is like I'm avoiding it altogether. Psychologist tells me I'm good at avoiding things. Told me once I might have Avoidant Personality Disorder. Maybe he was right and I do. I'm now avoiding thinking about the enormity of what I'm facing and the seriousness of it all. How will I manage to face up to cancer if I have it? Will I avoid that too? Am now thinking it is more avoiding than detach protector, or maybe even both!
 
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I have a horrible feeling that psychologist stopped SFT before time. Honestly believe we had a lot more work to do before he stopped.

I now have a very frightened and hurt little girl inside me. She makes me cry. I should soothe her but don't know how (don't feel we did enough work on it). The only thing I can think of doing is to take pills to ease her pain. Even though I know I shouldn't I don't know what else to do and feel I have to do something. Feel so helpless. :cry2: :cry2:
 
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Here's sending you a big warm and comforting hug from all of us on the forum :) XX
 
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