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Scars from Self Harming history

ABell

ABell

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New zealand
My forearms are covered in a thick blanket of self harm scars. I have been clean for 4-5 years now I can't really remember but I haven't hurt myself for a long time.
I just its so hot right now in new zealand and I barely ever where sleeves out. And I almost forget about them until strangers see them and look at me with disdain. I feel like they are saying "attention seeker" "what a waste of time" "how ugly" "i can't stand people like her" "ew" "idiot"
As soon as I see the facial expression I see so often on peoples faces whenever they catch a glimpse of my scars I think these things and I feel instantly insecure and anxious.

I can't take away the scars and I can't afford to cover them with tattoo
What I can do is say to myself that I survived the worst. That means I am much stronger than these people think. I will hope that one day people would be more understanding of people who do or have self harmed. We are just in need of more love not more hate.
 
PinkCandyFloss

PinkCandyFloss

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Feb 20, 2019
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Northern Ireland
It takes a while to get used to it, I don’t notice when people look anymore and I don’t care. I see mine as scars of a battle I fought with my mind, and won. I too am 4-5 years clean and hopefully will stay that way.

For a while and what I did was wear a light long sleeved top, like a shirt, and left it open along with a tee or vest top etc
That way I was still cool but hiding my scars. But I’m in the UK and we don’t get that warm here
 
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khuang

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Jun 26, 2014
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Avenue Q in the US
Try using Mederma. It’s an ointment sold in this toothpaste like tube but i5 has this applicator similar to Vaseline lip balm. It works well and lessens scars.
 
ABell

ABell

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New zealand
It takes a while to get used to it, I don’t notice when people look anymore and I don’t care. I see mine as scars of a battle I fought with my mind, and won. I too am 4-5 years clean and hopefully will stay that way.

For a while and what I did was wear a light long sleeved top, like a shirt, and left it open along with a tee or vest top etc
That way I was still cool but hiding my scars. But I’m in the UK and we don’t get that warm here
Wow thank you! ill buy some light fabric ones just to wear in public until I feel more comfortable about having my scars seen.
I feel like its our hottest summer yet. I am not used to the heat at all. Oh and I bet since the weather is being so extreme this year that its gonna flood more than ever this year. Not looking forward to the floods that will be coming in winter 😭...
 
PinkCandyFloss

PinkCandyFloss

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Northern Ireland
I hope it helps! Also look into things like bio-oil to reduce appearance of scars and what not 😊
 
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Snowshoes68

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Oct 30, 2019
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Location
USA
I have scars too but no one cares about me so it's like they don't exist
 
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Zackthemaniac

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Oct 16, 2019
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North Carolina
The interesting thing about them is people who dont them cant understand. But you also have an unspoken bond with anyone else who does.
 
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