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saw this and it really made me think about myself and other bpd sufferers

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Wow. It is bloody hard dealing with it day in day out xx
 
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Definitely!

Sending you hugs ❤
 
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Yeah, the psychological pain is something else. When I feel it, and can't distract myself from it, and have no idea how long it's going to persist, I want to die. And it's shit the way others refuse to believe how bad it gets... even people with other mental illnesses can be so dismissive. Being accused of 'loving the drama' is the really aggravating accusation... yeah, like anyone could actually get off on feeling this way(!).

The pain is bad enough that, essentially, it's come to dominate my life even when I'm not experiencing it; I'd say that my primary motivation in life has, for many years now, been to minimise the risk of ending up back in that awful headspace, which has entailed me withdrawing a fair degree from 'normal life'. I no longer work, and don't try to form intimate relationships. The more I can engage with the world on my terms, the less likely it is that my emotions will get out of hand.
 
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I want to die.
It may help to have a look at these two pages on the forum: Suicidal Crisis and Mental Health Forum - Getting Help about what to do if you're feeling suicidal, or if you need emergency help. I hope you can use the forum for support during this difficult time.

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Yeah, the psychological pain is something else. When I feel it, and can't distract myself from it, and have no idea how long it's going to persist, I want to die. And it's shit the way others refuse to believe how bad it gets... even people with other mental illnesses can be so dismissive. Being accused of 'loving the drama' is the really aggravating accusation... yeah, like anyone could actually get off on feeling this way(!).

The pain is bad enough that, essentially, it's come to dominate my life even when I'm not experiencing it; I'd say that my primary motivation in life has, for many years now, been to minimise the risk of ending up back in that awful headspace, which has entailed me withdrawing a fair degree from 'normal life'. I no longer work, and don't try to form intimate relationships. The more I can engage with the world on my terms, the less likely it is that my emotions will get out of hand.
please don't die ,you can talk to me if you want x
 
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It may help to have a look at these two pages on the forum: Suicidal Crisis and Mental Health Forum - Getting Help about what to do if you're feeling suicidal, or if you need emergency help. I hope you can use the forum for support during this difficult time.

If you’re thinking about suicide and are in immediate danger, please call your local emergency number (i.e. in the UK call 999, in the USA or Canada call 911, in Australia call 000 and in New Zealand call 111) or call the international emergency number of 112.

If you have been affected by the contents of this thread and would like to speak to someone about your feelings you can call one of the following helplines:

In the UK and Ireland, the Samaritans can be contacted on 116 123.
In the US, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is 1-800-273-8255.
In Canada, the Suicide Prevention Service on 1.833.456.4566.
In Australia, the crisis support service Lifeline is on 13 11 14.
In New Zealand, the Need to Talk service is on 1737 or 080017371737.
Other international helplines can be found at www.befrienders.org.
please don't die ,you can talk to me if you want x
I'm really sorry, what I wrote was intended to explain how I feel when the BPD is at its worst... I don't feel like that at the moment, and I apologise for giving that impression.

Thank you both for your concern :hug:
 
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That’s exactly how I deal with bpd - live a half life so as to avoid the risk of the all consuming pain.
 
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Yet this is so difficult for so many people without mental illness to understand. They just brush it off as 'feeling sad or nervous', but it's so much bigger than that. It's like having a ton of bricks in your stomach 24/7, it feels so heavy. It wears me down.
 
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interaction with other people is what causes my emotional turmoil and stress, some distress within me can last days, even weeks from a bad way someone treated me or something they said that hurt me or if I feel they don't like me and especially when i feel i have done something wrong to someone like I had an angry outburst at them. then i suffer anguish for days, feeling bad about myself going over and over it in my mind about what they think of me and what I did.

Which is why I think I am becoming more of a loner so I come into contact with as few people as possible to reduce my mental distress. My current distress is from some people I work with and those interactions.
 
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interaction with other people is what causes my emotional turmoil and stress, some distress within me can last days, even weeks from a bad way someone treated me or something they said that hurt me or if I feel they don't like me and especially when i feel i have done something wrong to someone like I had an angry outburst at them. then i suffer anguish for days, feeling bad about myself going over and over it in my mind about what they think of me and what I did.

Which is why I think I am becoming more of a loner so I come into contact with as few people as possible to reduce my mental distress. My current distress is from some people I work with and those interactions.
Don’t isolate yourself, you need people to support you if you need it xx
 
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I'm not enthusiastic about the definition. It's not a precise science psychology or psychiatry. I often think the terminology does more harm than good.
I like a book drop the disorder which talks about the harm these definitions do.
They don't really cover you the individual and they stigmatise us.
 
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feeling this immensely the past few months. When BPD is flaring up it feels like a constant physical pain/discomfort at varying levels throughout the day, but always there.
 
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