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Regarding taking resposibility for your posts and how they affect others: expectations around this do depend on the guidelines and aims of the forum on which you are posting. Some forums expect members to take more responsibility than others, and so it's important that what is said on here should not be quoted or used on different forums, for example.
 
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Regarding taking resposibility for your posts and how they affect others: expectations around this do depend on the guidelines and aims of the forum on which you are posting. Some forums expect members to take more responsibility than others, and so it's important that what is said on here should not be quoted or used on different forums, for example.
As far as I see it, it's nothing to do with the forum. MHF could write a rule saying I'm completely responsible for the effects my posts have on others - but I would still disagree with this and not accept this, nor would it change my posting in any way as I always try to post with care and consideration anyway. Rules and guidelines can tell you how to act and behave, but not how to think and feel. I'd happily quote what I've said on here on any other forum, if I were a member of any other forums; they're just my own feelings on responsibility. The idea of a poster being a 100% responsible for the 'effects' that their posts have on others (who choose to use / misinterpret and act disproportionately to online information) I think is wrong and should be challenged where possible. :)
 
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however, if a forum makes rules and you don't follow them, the forum can then decide to terminate your membership. i don't want to argue about this: as i say, different forums have different rules and that can mean that if you quote something from this forum on another forum, you may be in breach of one set of rules. sometimes it's important to have rules like that to prevent flaming, trolling or bullying.
 
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In my mind (whether I understand them correctly or not), the rules here are this:

No direct flaming/abuse/threats
No actual descriptions of self harm or methods
No links to commercial websites

I think anyone who stuck to that wouldn't have any problems here.

Beyond that, it's the internet, it's an open forum. You can post what you like but the mods reserve the right to moderate the more widely accepted as offensive and inflammatory posts. It is private property within the internet after all.
 
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But as I'm trying to point out, I'm not talking about quoting from another forum on here, but the reverse, which may not be permitted by the other forum. Nothing to do with MHF rules. Now whatever you agree or disagree with isn't the point. I'm not interested in argument for the sake of it: I've had too many Sunday lunches ruined by people who do and I don't want to engage in it. I've pointed out the situation: your agreement or disagreement with it isn't the issue.
 
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I'm not disagreeing? I'm trying to make a helpful post to those who have come here pointing out how simple it is. We can have a debate if you like though?
 
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You seemed to be misunderstanding what I said.
Thank you, but I'm watching The Green Death atm and need to concentrate on the maggots.
 
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There's not much thought policing here :). That's what I like so much about it - as busy as mod / admin can be, when you consider the membership numbers here and the number of people moderating the board, it's clear that for the most part people most people manage to regulate themselves without bizarre rules about personal responsibility - most people are kind and considerate. I also don't think anyone can go far wrong with the guidelines you just said ME.
 
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Hello all
It must be half time by now surely?
bringing on the oranges....:)

Right, I am sticking with the guidelines here, and thank you FMOW, and ME, by george I think I've got it.

As long as I stick by MEs simple clarification of the guidelines, then if someone is then upset by what I say on here, its NOT MY PROBLEM its theirs.

That will do for me ... sorted..:D

@lllMElll
HOW VERY dare YOU eat my orange! You have ruined me half time break now grrrrrr(y)
 
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As long as I stick by MEs simple clarification of the guidelines, then if someone is then upset by what I say on here, its NOT MY PROBLEM its theirs.

That will do for me ... sorted..:D
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No Taffy! You're personally responsible for every single reaction to your post - we're dealing with a potential audience of 7 billion people, and you're personally responsible for every single of one of them and how they choose to use the internet and run their lives. Personal responsibility Taffy! :LOL:
 
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Taff

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Oh Feck it:scratcheshead:
Give me me fecking orange slices back then, and its my ball and I am going home, to look at all the fecking writs heading my way..............:panic:
 
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At the end of the day, we all have to live with our own actions; its called having a conscience!

If you can honestly say, not to others, but to yourself, that you've done nothing wrong then that's fine. But remember, whilst you can kid others you can't really kid yourself.

Once you've looked at your conscience, you can move forward. And may feel that you owe an apology to people to whom you have been unkind.
 
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Taff

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I really am not responsible for your feelings and as someone said on another thread, theres an ignore button, so use it. I find it works very well.
 
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There are different examples of how rules are broken (or not) on here
If someone says 'You're an idiot because you take meds', then that is deliberate flaming, for a start, AND the poster has not really been very kind or considerate in their post.
If someone says 'I don't think meds are appropriate for everyone', then that breaks no forum rules and the poster is being measured in their response (at the very least).

However, three people read the second post, one could get all het up and say 'what, so you're anti med? you don't know what you're talking about'; one could say 'fair enough, i agree'; and the third might say 'I don't necessarily agree, but you're entitled to your opinion'.
Am I, as the original poster, responsible for their reactions? Of course not. I've been fair and measured in my reply - how other people react to my comment is not my responsibility unless i've been deliberately rude / insulting. Likewise, how I react to other people's posts is not their responsibility UNLESS they have deliberately set out to be insulting / rude / offensive (and even then i might laugh it off and dismiss it). Differences of opinion happen all the time on here, and that is fine - debate is good and healthy. But if comments get personal or offensive / rude / insulting etc (break the guidelines), then that is overstepping the mark.

Let's say that writing 'I don't think meds are appropriate for everyone' is ok on here (which it is). But someone then quotes that on anther forum, and it's not ok on that forum - well I would hope and expect the staff on that forum to moderate that post according to their rules and guidelines.
As people have said, different forums have different rules and guidelines, and one would reasonably expect staff on each forum to moderate according to their rules / guidelines, and members of more than one forum to make sure they adhere to the respective rules of each.
 
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Totally agree with all you've written there pepecat.

I really am not responsible for your feelings and as someone said on another thread, theres an ignore button, so use it. I find it works very well.
That's pretty much how I operate. As long as I post in a considered and kind way - how people interpret / use / react to my considered and kind posts is completely up to them! ..and certainly not my responsibility. As long as I show consideration in my posts, I am really only responsible for myself - and I have enough responsibilities already without worrying what every other person on the world wide web is up to. People on here are adults using an internet forum, not my kids for god sake. :tea:
 
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