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Amanda_M

Amanda_M

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Hi everyone-

I've been struggling really hard the last couple of months and I have finally decided to join a community where I feel I can find people who are going through the same hardships that I am.

I'm 23, and I just graduated college in May. I have a full-time job at a place where I love, but it isn't my dream job or the job that my parents thought I would have. Little background I guess, I've done a competitive sport since I was six, and my parents have always been really involved and devoted to my sport and my life altogether. Sports kept me busy and I missed out on a lot of things growing up. I never had a boyfriend since I was constantly busy and I didn't really have time for that I guess.

Anyways I've always dreamed in working in entertainment and it's been harder to get into than I anticipated and my parents seem disappointed in me at all times. Now, these days I find myself crying and not enjoying the things that I used to. I used to be bubbly always wanting to do fun things and now I'd rather sit at home and watch tv. I can't be alone or else I start sobbing and I don't know what to do. My parents just tell me to be happy, and how they don't understand why I am upset, not dating, since I've been lucky and blessed. They want me to be independent but I really need their support right now.

Sorry if this is all over the place I just don't know what to do.
 
Bizzarebitrary

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Hi and welcome. Glad you decided to join us and I'm sorry to hear you're struggling right now.

My parents just tell me to be happy, and how they don't understand why I am upset, not dating, since I've been lucky and blessed.
The correct answer to "Just be happy" is, "Don't you think I would if I could?" Nobody wants to feel depressed but at some time or another, each of us has heard someone tell us this.

Mental health isn't just for people who have had traumas. It doesn't matter what sort of life you've had or if you believe you have any reason to struggle. And if your health is suffering you don't have to wait 10 years down the road to get some help.

Help can be reading about the experience of others in the various forums so that you feel less alone. Or it can mean opening up and writing some more about yourself and what you're struggling with. If your symptoms have become unbearable or you're ready to take a more active role in your mental fitness, I suggest you try talking to therapist. A trained professional won't judge you or dismiss your problems and can help you cope with negative pr intrusive thoughts. You took a step by coming here and opening up, check it out with yourself and see how that feels.

Wishing you a little peace and relief from your worries.
 
Liza9560

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Hi, Amanda—

Reading your post reiterates the weird nature of anxiety and depression in my view: you’ve graduated. You have a good job. Why are you now feeling so off? It just goes to show us that anxiety and depression are sneaky, and can read their ugly heads at seemingly “okay” times. But underneath it all, you are concerned about your parents’ concern, you are encountering hardships in the industry, etc. Your body has decided to be exhausted, much to your dismay. Go freakin’ figure.

For me, for instance, these past holidays were the straw that broke the camel’s back. I was having a “good time,” but I think I over committed myself, and suffered “poop out” (a medical term!) on my Zoloft, and after five years, I’m back in therapy and I’ve upped my dosage of the Z. Bizarrebitrary is right...professional therapy will make you feel much better, and really get you on the right track to coming out of your funk.

You’re 23! This won’t be your last job! So many wonderful things are ahead of you. They’ll come, even without your seeking them. Just focus on taking care of yourself and your business, and things will fall into place. Breathe. Exercise. Eat meals, healthy ones. Make yourself. Also, YouTube has lots of encouraging videos about anxiety, depression, intrusive thoughts. Seek professional help sooner rather than later.

Feel better. Keep us posted! You’re so not alone!
 
RookieatBest

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Hi and welcome to the MHF! Hopeful helping.

Feel good about yourself even when your parents don't. You don't need their approval all the time even though it was a thing when you were young. Hey it's time for you to approve of yourself aside from your parents. Love who you are now and who you can become to be.

You'll find love. Don't rush it. Until then take time to still find out what you want in life. Keep that space open until you're ready to fill/close that part (love interest) of your life up if it will be less complicated for you and partially helpful.

Hardship is part of life, but that other part is easy. You just have to keep pushing through the hardship of life to experience the easiness of it too.

The things you missed out on go explore it! Boyfriend not right now unless you're ready. First get your mental health healthy.

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