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ramboghettouk

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when i shook that kid harrassing me the parents called the police the police asked if i was on drugs i said prescription drugs they asked what for, the policeman closed his book, my feet didn't touch the ground

after most of the night in the cells the policeman got me to sign a caution for assualt, he said it'd be off my records in 3 yrs, i'd have signed anything to get out

then came crb checks then cautions were included

whether anyone will accept my version for "attacking a child"

Heard on the bus "he's mentally ill, he attacked a child, the police were called and he denied everything, and there was nothing they could do" when i told my mother she started crying and saying you've got to get away from those vicious people

guess with the torys attitude to those large familys on benefits, i'm having the last laugh
 
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I have seen similar things in work and from a PCSO where i live. We were talking about a man behaving strangely outside the shops and i had said he looked unwell and they weren't very nice about him, told me i should stay away from him. I think people frown upon the single mums with several kids, mums who scream and drag kids about and swear at them, and people kicking their dog, much more than mentally ill.

I am nervous around people with schizophrenia and do check they aren't following me, aren't sitting behind me, because of media lately with knife crime and psychosis. People are scared but i think shaking a child who is harrasing you, the police should have told the child off first, and then checked you were well, and talked to you to make sure you wouldn't lose it again. Maybe in the past they would have helped you move. I hope people around here never find out about my mental illness. That would be bad. I'd have to move.
 
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was just watching a programme about paedophile hunters maybe though i'm not a paedophile, i shouldn't have shared shaking a kid

schitzoprenics. they say a lot of people tick a box saying they wouldn't be comfortable with one as a neighbour, i wouldn't and i've got the diagnosis, i've had too many drug refusenik neighbours, but people know my views, an old gammon
 
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I almost hit a child once and i was helping out in the school at the time. We were sitting on the floor and i went to hit her leg or something, i was so angry, she wasn't listening to me and was not very likeable (not her fault). I hit the floor in front of her really hard, at the last minute, rather than her.

When i was a child, my friend had a sister who was mentally disabled. I just did not like her so i pushed her very hard on my bed. They never came over again, and i don't even think the girl could have told her dad what happened, no speech, but what a bad thing of me to do. No reason, not her fault, just me.

It's very common. Just because the kid wasn't yours. I bet the mum hits the kid all the time. I've seen my friend kick her dog across the kitchen floor. So much goes on behind closed doors. The problem is the media and schizophrenia or autism or bpd being blamed for murder and multiple stabbings. It scares everyone else and makes people with those diagnoses feel the worst. It is good for benefits hopefully.

My gp won't leave me in the waiting room for a minute, even if i am early or late, i am straight in. She sits very far from me, far from the desk, and there seems to always be a member of staff checking on when i come out. It is very upsetting.
 
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getting a bit off thread but talking about hiding mental illness, if you lose contact with services or they close your case you'll have problems getting supportive references if your benefits are reviewed

every time you use services well people gossip it gets around, i don't think i can hide it, but on the other hand there are worse rumours if someone appears in social housing out the blue my age, it's like if i tried to hide it from an employer, they'll asssume prison and a pretty serious crime to have served so many years

your lucky your gp sees you immediately mine expects me to wait an hour in a crowded surgery with social anxiety
 
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It is only because i have been drunk in the waiting room before and my gp is very nervous about mental health and avoids asking questions. I think she wants to get me back to work so i am going to go along with her for a while and say i want to also. I might be wrong and will find out at my next appointment.
 
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maybe i should try been drunk at the gps unfortunately opinion is sort out the drink and alls hunky dory and fit for work
 
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That's what i have noticed too. Addiction, cannabis, alcohol, is all curable and the persons own choice. That seems to be the current opinion in terms of benefits. A life choice :mad:
 
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It is also a sign of not coping, so a good idea to have a bit or just pour a bit on your clothing so you smell of alcohol, and deny it.
 
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It upsets me that i have to even think of not being truthful and it upsets me that then i don't get the help i need. The system is so unhelpful now.
 
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martin uses a wheel chair, going to partys he uses crutches and gets an ordinary taxi, drink is a muscle relaxant it healps his cerebral palsy

but dealing with officialdom like the dwp he won't be seen out of that wheelchair
 
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You miss work? You must have had a comfortable job and not some conveyor belt job.
 
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You miss work? You must have had a comfortable job and not some conveyor belt job.
the torys are quite effective in making people regret not working
 
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