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Landonsmommy

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I'm not really sure where to post this but I really hope someone can offer some reassurance. For the last couple weeks I have been panicking about dying. It just came out of nowhere and I've never thought about this before. I'm terrified of never seeing my family again and not knowing what will happen when I'm gone. I can't sleep or eat or think about anything else. It scares me so much to think that I won't exist anymore and the world just goes on without you and you'll never see or do anything again or do things with the people you love. I'm also feeling as though time is going too fast. I have a young son and it's so hard to know that this isn't how things will stay. That he will grow up and I will have to leave. I'm sorry this is so long I just really don't know how to stop feeling this way
 
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Have a look at the spirituality sub-forum.
 
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Sorry to hear you're going through this - the thought of death can indeed be terrifying, especially when you really think deeply about it.

So you really can't identify a trigger for what's started it all off?

I would say that a lot of people do go through stages where they consider their own mortality. It's obviously a very "heavy" subject.

Brat is right in that you can probably find a lot of different perspectives about this in the spirituality sub-forum.. if that's something you're open to?

What I might also suggest is, if it's a resource available to you, talking through your feelings with a counsellor. You can usually check out what areas a counsellor specialises in and so hopefully would be able to find someone suitable to talk through your fears with.

Again, i'm really sorry you're going through this. I have had phases where I think of death and it's really too much to comprehend - I get so overwhelmed with it.
 
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I'm not really sure where to post this but I really hope someone can offer some reassurance. For the last couple weeks I have been panicking about dying. It just came out of nowhere and I've never thought about this before. I'm terrified of never seeing my family again and not knowing what will happen when I'm gone. I can't sleep or eat or think about anything else. It scares me so much to think that I won't exist anymore and the world just goes on without you and you'll never see or do anything again or do things with the people you love. I'm also feeling as though time is going too fast. I have a young son and it's so hard to know that this isn't how things will stay. That he will grow up and I will have to leave. I'm sorry this is so long I just really don't know how to stop feeling this way
Hi Landonsmommy, all you can really do is just try to stay alive for as long as possible. But nobody is guaranteed a specific length of time. Any of us could die tomorrow or in 50 years time. Death is a fact of life. Sooner or later you have to die. Because of the eternal nature of human mortality, we are all forced to face that. In my opinion, when we die that is it, Annihilation. Oblivion. The End. Who knows what the experience of death is?
 
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Hi Landonsmommy, all you can really do is just try to stay alive for as long as possible. But nobody is guaranteed a specific length of time. Any of us could die tomorrow or in 50 years time. Death is a fact of life. Sooner or later you have to die. Because of the eternal nature of human mortality, we are all forced to face that. In my opinion, when we die that is it, Annihilation. Oblivion. The End. Who knows what the experience of death is?
That's right,there are two surtainties in life death and taxes.The ultimate price you pay for life is death,if you live a happy honest life you'll have nothing to fear.When it's your time you will know to just let go,Death is as natural as being born.There is one consolation,your alive right now.
 
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I have had this before but I panic more about the foreverness as its a long time and can trigger a panic attack even. Unfortunately I don't have the answers but i do believe in life after death which makes my brain question more. Now when I try think about the foreverness I just can't my brain doesn't let me luckily. I can only offer well wishes I'm afraid and I hope you find something to help your brain stop racing too.
 
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I have had this before but I panic more about the foreverness as its a long time and can trigger a panic attack even. Unfortunately I don't have the answers but i do believe in life after death which makes my brain question more. Now when I try think about the foreverness I just can't my brain doesn't let me luckily. I can only offer well wishes I'm afraid and I hope you find something to help your brain stop racing too.
You say that you believe in "life after death". Is it a Christian conception of heaven and hell? Or something else?
 
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Not christian no. I believe our spirit comes here to experience things and level up so to speak as we learn this here until we've learnt everything we need then our spirit no longer has to visit this world. Kinda spiritual I guess but I don't attend church. I do go on ghost hunts though :)
 
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This must be horrible. Is there perhaps something else in your life that is worrying you at the moment which has brought on these fears. I think when you get older you gradually lose your fear of death and even look forward to it as the start of new experience.
 
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Thank you all for responding. I really have no idea where these thoughts came from. I've never really thought much about it before. I just feel like my life is flying by. I'm still only 26 but I feel like there is just so much I'm going to miss and that I'll be sad to leave everything here. I am having horrible waves of panic and I just feel like if there is nothing after this life then what is the point? Why do we start families and love people if it's for such a short time? I just don't want to leave
 
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Thank you all for responding. I really have no idea where these thoughts came from. I've never really thought much about it before. I just feel like my life is flying by. I'm still only 26 but I feel like there is just so much I'm going to miss and that I'll be sad to leave everything here. I am having horrible waves of panic and I just feel like if there is nothing after this life then what is the point? Why do we start families and love people if it's for such a short time? I just don't want to leave
What you write sounds like someone you know has died recently, or perhaps even someone you don't know who is famous or something similar.

Or it could be a time of your life where you have really become self-aware. I [think] most if not most people experience this. Have you thought this strongly about this before?
 
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