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SAD affecting my relationship every year to extremes



New member
Oct 21, 2017
Hi everyone
I’m not sure if this is the right section to post this but since about 15yrs old I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety with the worst time being in the winter leading me to be diagnosed with SAD (seasonal affective disorder). Every year (without fail) it gets to autumn and I start to have a midlife crisis (I’m 24 btw) I was with my ex for 8 years and every winter I’d go through a phase where I’d start to be attracted to someone else, think it’s not what I want, split up then get back together, it’s a vicious circle. We finally split last year and I thought it wouldn’t happen again but I’m with my now boyfriend and the exact same thing is happening. It’s making me poorly because I love him but I keep thinking I want to move abroad where it’s sunny and I keep creating problems he has two kids and it’s so much to take on because he has them 50/50 it puts extreme pressure on our relationship. I’m feeling like I want to be with someone my age but this happens all the time every year!!!! Can anyone shed some light because I’m going insane in a manic state of depression and I just don’t know what to do.​
Poopy Doll

Poopy Doll

Well-known member
Jun 13, 2015
Fort Lauderdale, Florida, USA
Hi there. I live in Florida where there is essentially no Winter. I wonder if you'd feel better living here. There are lots of places like this and in your case a geographical cure might be possible.

Also, I've read some books on co dependency and some of what you are doing sounds like that.
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Well-known member
Oct 12, 2017
Thanks for sharing. I don't know much about SAD, but it seems like you've sought some sort of professional help. If not, I'd suggest seeking out a counselor or a support group. Have you spoken with your boyfriend about your feelings? Sometimes just letting the other person know our struggle can be really freeing.