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rOCD - I just broke up with my boyfriend and I miss him

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Bloom101

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I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago due to overwhelming thoughts that he is not the right one for me. I was hesitant to invite him to family gatherings, I magnified his flaws, and constantly thought about our future together and how it would not work. I was impaired by all the thoughts and found it very hard to go about daily tasks. I was caught in a whirlwind of worries and needed out so I broke up. It felt so relieving for the first 2 weeks after the break-up. I could sleep well again, and all the thoughts disappeared. Now its been a month and for the past two weeks, I have been missing him a lot. I know he loves me deeply. This is my second break-up with him. Honestly, I would love to get back together with him and try again and try to ignore the thoughts, but I have no guarantees. I might suddenly panic again and hurt him for the third time. I don't want to hurt him again, but I want to try to give it another go. All my friends and my therapist have discouraged me from getting back together. I do see their point, but I can't help but wonder, if I can ignore the thoughts and build a future with my boyfriend. Is there a way I could approach this relationship without triggering my OCD?
 
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Hello513Zombie

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I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago due to overwhelming thoughts that he is not the right one for me. I was hesitant to invite him to family gatherings, I magnified his flaws, and constantly thought about our future together and how it would not work. I was impaired by all the thoughts and found it very hard to go about daily tasks. I was caught in a whirlwind of worries and needed out so I broke up. It felt so relieving for the first 2 weeks after the break-up. I could sleep well again, and all the thoughts disappeared. Now its been a month and for the past two weeks, I have been missing him a lot. I know he loves me deeply. This is my second break-up with him. Honestly, I would love to get back together with him and try again and try to ignore the thoughts, but I have no guarantees. I might suddenly panic again and hurt him for the third time. I don't want to hurt him again, but I want to try to give it another go. All my friends and my therapist have discouraged me from getting back together. I do see their point, but I can't help but wonder, if I can ignore the thoughts and build a future with my boyfriend. Is there a way I could approach this relationship without triggering my OCD?
Honestly it would be up to you and your ex. As far as I am concerned matters of the heart are best left to those involved if you are looking for advice they may lead you astray. You should follow your heart.
 
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