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Rocd/ HOCD is my boyfriend gay...

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Gemini105

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Hi 👋 I joined this forum yesterday really pleased something like this exists. I guess I'm looking to see if anyone out there experiences or experienced the same as me because I cannot find anything online about it. I think I have HOCD but it's not towards myself. It's towards my partner who identifies as a straight male. I cannot stop thinking he is actually gay. Anytime he comments on a great actor they are always male. He also calls everyone women and men names like "sweetheart" "darling" etc and I'm on such high alert. I even asked him outright recently to which he said no. I don't know how to get these thoughts to stop and I genuinely wonder whether I'm the only one with this type of OCD?
 
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maybe hes bisexual (if that really exists i dunno) or maybe bisexual people are really just confused gay people. ive never known anyone who is bisexual to question them about it. some of them might convince themselves they have transcended normal sexuality. but after that excitement passes they might end up choosing one or the other based on their real genetic desires. it all seems alot more confusing and complicated then regular sexuality. so i can see why some simpler minded people dont want to think about it and just reject it all together.

perhaps you are worried he is gay and will eventually realize this and leave you. which gives you a good right to be worried about it. confess your fears and feelings to him so he knows you are not just trying to hurt him. then his empathy for you will help him to be honest. if he even knows. even if he is really gay it could still be possible he truly believes he isnt.
 
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