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MoonChild84

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Hey guys! I’ve posted before about my anxiety with my pets and how I don’t feel I am enough for them. I am feeling this again just now. I find it really hard to be responsible for other beings some days. It makes me very anxious and I just want to hide away and be completely alone.

I rescue my pets and I love them dearly but sometimes I feel like I am not enough or can’t cope. I also feel pressured to have children which I don’t want at all, I couldn’t cope with the responsibility and to be honest I just do not want kids (I’m a 35yo woman and have always felt like this). Children is just something I have never felt like I wanted and sometimes I feel guilty for this. I hope someone can relate!
 
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Please do not give in to be pressured to have children as that is your choice and should be respected at all times. I'm sure you do a great job with your rescued pets as our dog is a rescue too. Try and have a go at some of these breathing exercisers for anxiety as they can help.


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It’s no one else’s business whether you have kids or not. It sounds like you know yourself well that way.
I adore kids and have been a great aunt to my 13 year old nephew since he was a baby. But I barely knew which way was up until my 40s, and even then I knew it would not have been a responsible or loving choice for me to have kids, as I had and have enough challenges within myself. No regrets, in fact, when it comes to that, a sense of peace. :)
 
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I had kids when all through my 20 and late 30's i said no kids! Its work nobody can really tell you about. nothing wrong with not having kids.
I know you love the pets but if they cause you great anxiety you could consider rehoming them.
 
MoonChild84

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Please do not give in to be pressured to have children as that is your choice and should be respected at all times. I'm sure you do a great job with your rescued pets as our dog is a rescue too. Try and have a go at some of these breathing exercisers for anxiety as they can help.


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Thank you Bod I am going to try those exercises this evening. I am feeling better already just speaking on here :)
 
MoonChild84

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It’s no one else’s business whether you have kids or not. It sounds like you know yourself well that way.
I adore kids and have been a great aunt to my 13 year old nephew since he was a baby. But I barely knew which way was up until my 40s, and even then I knew it would not have been a responsible or loving choice for me to have kids, as I had and have enough challenges within myself. No regrets, in fact, when it comes to that, a sense of peace. :)
A sense of peace sounds wonderful! Maybe I should stop feeling guilty and just accept my decision for what it is. I am being true to myself as each year goes by and it feels good. I am looking forward to my 40s as I feel so much more settled into my 30s. Apart from the annoying anxiety phases!!
 
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I had kids when all through my 20 and late 30's i said no kids! Its work nobody can really tell you about. nothing wrong with not having kids.
I know you love the pets but if they cause you great anxiety you could consider rehoming them.
Thank you SoftRain, I am not at a breaking point yet I just sometimes feel I’m not enough for them. When in reality I often do to much!
 
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