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Reply to ' fedup' and Stephanie



Founding Member
May 27, 2008
Hi ( Fedup)

im not too bad at the minute thanks for asking... how are you ??

i have not been abale to get on line much as my laptop is been repaired and
i have only just logged on with my email to my husbands pc!

I have finally got a job!! at a call centre again but more sales based so
we will see..

I am anxious and nervous i dont start till July 14th and then its a month
training 9-5 mon - fri and once thats done i will be going to back to the
hrs im used to 5-9pm tues -fri and a full day sat so not so bad...

I have issue with leaving my son, he is 3 and my sister ( thankgod ) is
going to have him for 3 weeks of my training and Daddy is going to be off
work for the 1st week.

I just feel so guilty leaving him for those 3 weeks even with my sister who
is older than me has 4 childern of her own and has a little boy the same ag
as mine and they will love it! ( drive her mad) but she will be fine...

I have seperation issues i think it stems back to my 1st born Thomas.. who
died when he was a baby he was 8mths old... ( cut a long story short) he was
born 3 mths prem and stayed in neo natal all his life and i used to every
single day and spend every waking hr with him.. he was so brave and so cute

And im still coming to terms with his death..i dont think i will ever
'accept' it just learn to live with it.. so my main point ( sorry i have
gone on )
Im worried about my new job people always ask you. got any kids? how many
and i HAVE to mention Thomas as he did live as he was a big part of our
lives.. just hope i cope for those weeks of training and dont go down- hill

Well best go as cooking tea ( spag bol)

My sons webpage in his memory


Well-known member
Founding Member
Dec 18, 2007
Hi Louise

Nice to see you pop on :flowers:
Good luck with your new job (y)

Just take one day at a time with leaving your son , i'm sure it will work out fine.
Also don't " beat " yourself up over questions about your personal life when you start working. You tell them what you want them to know and thats it.

Takecare now :hug:



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Founding Member
Staff Member on Leave
Dec 16, 2007
hiding behind the sofa
Hope things are going well and you feel ready to get back to work. Its always hard to leave them or the first few days but it will get easier. And think of he money at the end of it!

I dont know what to tell you when people ask aout your family, just say what you feel comfortable with.

I have a picture up of my grandson who only lived for one day and it takes pride of place next to my grandaughter. I must admit i dont tell everyone what happened but if they ask ill tell them. And you must do what feels right for you:hug:


Well-known member
Founding Member
May 27, 2008
Hi Louise,

Congratulations on getting the job!

I think everyone has allready said it - take one day at a time and try not to ponder on the future too much and tell people as much or as little as you feel comfortable with. I guess everyone has something in their lives that they've found difficult so in some ways there will be people joining the company with similar worries as yours.

Another way to look at it is that you'll be meeting a new bunch of people which could be great fun.

I do hope you enjoy it!
Take care,
Honey, xx