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Relationships and Borderline Personality Disorder

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Ciarak

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Are all my relationships destined to fail??
I have recently been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and I am now thinking that it is the main reason why so many of my relationships (romantic) have failed or have been very stormy.

I find that when I meet someone at first who I like, even sometimes without knowing them fully, I seem to almost become obsessed with them, thinking about them all the time and I almost cannot stand it if they do not call me back or maintain frequent contact. But after a short time of spending time with someone, even small things that they do makes me hate them and irritates me then I cannot stand to be touched by them but if they threaten to leave me I cannot stand this either! I always seems to end up hating people I had previously adored,


Does anyone have a similar experience? Is this all down to BPD?:confused:
 
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Are all my relationships destined to fail??
I have recently been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and I am now thinking that it is the main reason why so many of my relationships (romantic) have failed or have been very stormy.

I find that when I meet someone at first who I like, even sometimes without knowing them fully, I seem to almost become obsessed with them, thinking about them all the time and I almost cannot stand it if they do not call me back or maintain frequent contact. But after a short time of spending time with someone, even small things that they do makes me hate them and irritates me then I cannot stand to be touched by them but if they threaten to leave me I cannot stand this either! I always seems to end up hating people I had previously adored,


Does anyone have a similar experience? Is this all down to BPD?:confused:
With me its very simiar infact, i find it hard to form romantic attachments at all, apart of me really resents them and the other part of me likes them a lot and i cant find a happy medium.

So i've given up even trying because i have the worlds worst luck in daiting and romance so now i dont even bother how sad is that?:scared::cry:

Your not alone not at alll and with being diagnoised as having emotionally unstable personality disorder-basically the same thing, it has left me wondering is it because of my personality disorder that has made it impossible for me to be intimate with another human being without hating and loving them to peices.:p
 
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