- Feb 27, 2019
Has anyone had any kind of dealings with this?
Hi. It’s great to see you. Welcome!
Our forum members are people, maybe like yourself, who experience mental health difficulties or who have had them at some point in their life. Amongst our membership there is a wealth of expertise that has been developed through having to deal with mental health issues.
We are an actively moderated forum with a team of experienced moderators. We also have a specialist safety team that works extra hard to keep the forum safe for visitors and members.
Register now to access many more features and forums!
This is why i can never have a relationship....My ex husband was a narcissist for sure. He even knew he was. He showed me the movie Gaslight and it was all things he would do to me! He was trying to drive me crazy like the character in the movie.
I realized he was a con artist and scammed people for money for a fake business. He wanted to use disabled children's social security numbers for profit. He posed as a religious man but was violent and a druggy. My mental health went downhill and he refused to pay the bills so I had to spend all my money on them. I couldn't save enough to leave him for a while.
We went to marital therapy and he was secretly contacting the therapist behind my back. She was so charmed by him and I wouldn't say a word the whole session. This went on for months. He made up stories to the therapist to entertain her. Once he started with the silent treatment (two weeks long) on me he called it "withholding love to punish me". He admitted this in therapy and she was horrified that he was serious. He said she was a terrible therapist and he didnt want to go there anymore.
He would turn to me in a crowded room and tell me he was the most attractive man in the room. He claimed he wrote movie scripts like the matrix that were stolen. He was telling people when we were divorcing that HE put me through college and was now leaving him. Umm I put myself through college before I met him He would not pay any of his traffic tickets because "they have no real authority" and owes them $12,000. They are garnishing his wages so he just doesn't work.
He was violent. He threatened to kill me with a gun, twice! I knew he would do it and I ran away from him while he was at work one day.
He stalked me for a while and would send me creepy photos of him and ask me for money. He owes me thousands he agreed to pay in the divorce decree but I am not going to bother. Just go away dude! He knows I am engaged now and sent me an email he would not marry me again if I asked and that he gives his blessings on my engagement.
So many things I could tell you about my marriage to this guy. It makes me shudder.
Mine was making it difficult to get rid of him. I was advised just to forget about the money he owed me and have zero contact with him. He thought he could Lord this over me that he was going to stretch out a payment plan for a long time and have reasons to "communicate" with me (send berating emails). He tried to claim mutual bills in the divorce decree like his parking fines I had nothing to do with. I had a lawyer and he did not. He owes me but my lawyer says he will most likely never pay and I should let sleeping dogs lie. I blocked him on whatever I could and seems to have gone in search of his next victimI am trying to get rid of mine. He is being punitive and making it as difficult and expensive for me as he possibly can..which is considerable.