- Oct 20, 2008
ok - I know very well that the perceptions of someone when they're depressed can be very skewed. When partner was at his lowest, everything that i did or said was wrong, never enough and - in his eyes - calculated to put him down. The trouble is that now he has recovered he still believes all those perceptions that he had back then. Has any one else had this experience? He has said that even though when he talked to his counsellor about my 'hurtful' behaviour, his counsellor suggested that he was over-reacting and viewing things negatively, that he did not believe his counsellor and still does not. It has had a huge impact on our relationship. we have been together over 20 years, but I really feel that I can't go on sharing my life with someone who always views my actions in the most negative way that he can. Alright - I'm not perfect, and i am no angel - I get pmt like everyone else!, but I am not all devil either. My self esteem has taken a real bashing - i wonder if maybe i am that bad. i miss the person i used to know, who was caring and supportive. On the other side of his depression i am not sure that i know this man anymore, or - being brutally honest - that i want to.