
Wynn
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My partner (of 20+ years) and I are thinking of going to relationship counselling. He has recently, over the last year, come out of a major depression. Our relationship was a roller coaster whilst he was depressed (nothing unusual there though, I suspect) but unfortunately, over the last year, as he has recovered, the relationship has really gone down hill.
We find it really difficult now to talk about 'us' without arguing, so I think a counsellor might help in that respect. I imagine counselling will either help us move forward a step in our relationship, or help us to split more amicably. Just wondering what other people's experience of relationship counselling has been? Some people have suggested to me that it only works if both partners have been to seperate counsellors first, so that they know about / have dealt with all their own 'baggage' first - do you think this is true?
We find it really difficult now to talk about 'us' without arguing, so I think a counsellor might help in that respect. I imagine counselling will either help us move forward a step in our relationship, or help us to split more amicably. Just wondering what other people's experience of relationship counselling has been? Some people have suggested to me that it only works if both partners have been to seperate counsellors first, so that they know about / have dealt with all their own 'baggage' first - do you think this is true?