- Mar 19, 2009
I would appreciate some advice please. I've been with my girlfriend for 7 months and love her very much. She has bi-polar disorder but has been fairly stable since I've known her (I'm not taking credit for that!), although in the past has been extremely unwell. I'm really happy to give her the support and reassurance she needs but at times I feel like she is so absorbed by her mental health needs that she isn't able to "be there" for me when I need it. I have 2 sons by my previous partner who I see 5 - 7 days a week as well as a job that can be pretty stressful at times. Generally I'm pretty easy-going but now and again I'd really like her to put my needs first - ask me about what's going on at work, how I feel about my kids etc. I really don't want to sound selfish but at times supporting her mental health can be really hard - the bi-polar bit means that at times she's questioning our relationship and compatibility etc, and then will suddenly be totally into me / us leaving me confused!! I find this really hard to deal with as it leave me feeling really insecure and needing reassurance, while wanting to put her needs first. Does anyone else have similar experiences or do I just need to stop being so bloomin' needy?? Thanks.