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suzy

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Is looking at girls on webcam a form of cheating?

I have some suspicions I just hate the thought of my boyfriend looking at girls on webcams while we have been apart for a few weeks.

I don't know, I've just gotten into a state, I know he looks at porn and I don't actually mind that, but the idea of these webcam girls...

sorry this has nothing to do with bipolar! I have no one else to talk to
 
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It is OK love, boys like looking at girls. When they stop they are dead. Don't let this spoil you relationship.
 
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He shouldn't look at porn, it might get him into trouble. Why have you been apart for six weeks? Is he away somewhere, or have you just not been meeting?
 
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no not 6 wks! a lot shorter its the uni hols i am seeing him soon
 
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hi suzy
it doesnt matter what we think, its your relationship and if you dont like it then you have to talk to him, if you ignor things they stay the same , if you ask him things about it it could go lots of ways.
he might not be looking and then may feel you dont trust him, he may just be having a laugh and not mean anything by it, he may deny it altogether and accuse you of being paranoid.
lots of different outcomes may happen.
think about what you want, from him, the relationship and for the future.
do you want to be with him forever? is he " the one", do you want someone who you dont really trust? do you want someone who talks to girls via the web cam?
have a good think about it, and see what he says.
the thing with men is how you talk to him will determin how he responds, if you shout they switch off, if you accuse they switch off, if you calmly say you have had some worries and would like to share them with him, would he mind listening and disscussing your worries like grown ups, then explain what it is that is bothering you, you may get a conversation out of him.
you may not he may just go off on one and be guilty as hell. in which case are you prepared to split up with him??
not an easy task, keep us posted hunni xx
 
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Obviously each relationship has it's own set of boundaries. Talk to him and see what he says about it, maybe he doesn't realise that you are upset, men don't always think that looking at girls is a problem.
I think that if you are in a relationship you shouldn't do anything with anybody else that you wouldn't want your partner to see.
 
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DELATEXT

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guys will be guys (stupid and led by their meat and two veg)
does he love you and treat you as he should ??
web cams are a bit "creepy ", my personal view, it is your relationship, does he respect you ??
and how would he feel if the shoe was on the other foot ???
All the best....
 
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