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Emily3465

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Hello,
I had an online date with a guy who seemed very nice. at first. We started chatting and then he proposed to add me on Skype for a video call.
The conversation took a turn and became very sexual… At the end, he told me that he recorded me and if I didn't do everything he asked he would post the video on the internet.
I never showed him ma full face, but sometimes when I moved, we could see my face. He sent me screen shots after I hung up and I am recognizable…
He doesn't have my real name though.
He kept asking me to call him back after I hung up to finish "pleasing him". I got scared and I deleted my skype account (that I made with a fake name)
I am sick to my stomach, I am very scared that the video will leak.
He said he was in the US but he could be anywhere. I don't have his real name either, and I am not able to find him if the video ever leaks to press charges.
I am so scared… Am I in danger even if he doesn't have my real name?
This is driving crazy, I can't sleep, I can't eat and I am so scared...





 
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i dont think he can find you if he doesnt have your real name :hug:

that type of thing is why i wont use skype, theres a lot of creeps on there and i had a bad experience there myself so dont feel comfortable using it :hug:
 
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hi Emily :welcome:

I think you need to seek help probably from police
or a social worker or therapist
is there a womens centre available where you are perhaps

:grouphug::flowers:🎼:goodluck:
 
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You're fine he wont be able to do anything with it. Just use this as a good learning experience
 
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Hang in there Emily3465.

Talking to the police might help to ease your worries, sure. Wouldn't be surprised if the police are very familiar with this kind of tactic. But at the end of day, I doubt very much this guy is going to do anything with the video. It just sounds like a half-assed approach to extorting money out of people. Don't believe anything he says and most of all don't send him money. Good on you for deleting your account.
 
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Hi Emily,
Well done for deleting your account, I'd go to the police as he's probably doing it to lots of people.
He had no right to film you.
Hugs
 
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Emily3465

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Hello all,

Thank you so much for your replies. It makes feel less lonely.

Unfortunately I live in a muslim country and I can not go to the police, as they will probably shame me even more or worse put me in jail...

The video itself is not "that bad" as I didn't show my private parts... But it's still very embarrassing.

If the video ever leaks, my close ones will for sure be able to recognize me..

I am scared, I really hope that he won't release it. I wish I could warn other girls of how dangerous this can be. The world is such a messed up place...
 
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sorry to hear that Emily
im glad you didnt show anything
if its just things you said in that case
you might be able to recover from that

I think there is quite alot going on on Twitter
with people helping women from muslim countries
like there was a girl Rahaf Mohammed
who managed to get to Canada
with just the help of organisations she found on Twitter

not saying you need to do that
but there might be other organisations on the internet
other than the police

:hug5:🎼:goodluck::flowers:🌅
 
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If he did record the video he could post it on a porn website where he would get paid advertising dollars based on the number of views. The good news is that he may have never even recorded it or have recorded it with no intention of distributing it. But you will never know. What are the chances that your family will find your video on a porn website?
If they did would they bring it up with you? I think the chances of anyone you know finding out about this are slim. But even if they did you made no mistake except to put yourself out there in a way that represented yourself poorly and to trust someone who didn’t earn your trust I would chalk it up to a hard lesson learned. Just think of how much worse things could have been if you had actually become involved with this person. I would just be glad that you weren’t violated any further and are more or less relatively safe. :hug:
 
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Hello all,

Thank you so much for your replies. It makes feel less lonely.

Unfortunately I live in a muslim country and I can not go to the police, as they will probably shame me even more or worse put me in jail...

The video itself is not "that bad" as I didn't show my private parts... But it's still very embarrassing.

If the video ever leaks, my close ones will for sure be able to recognize me..

I am scared, I really hope that he won't release it. I wish I could warn other girls of how dangerous this can be. The world is such a messed up place...
Hi,
I'm so sorry you can't go to the police, you are right about the world been messed up.
Most people just threaten, you did right deleting your account he can't contact you again now.
Please don't blame yourself.
Sending good wishes
 
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Ladies (and gentlemen), next time this happens, simply answer with 'I'm glad you gave me hard evidence, I am from the police and have been investigating you for a while. Due to our excessive contact, I have been able to track you down'. Don't wait for an answer and delete Skype or whatever program you use immediately after you said it.

I get your worries, especially because of your country, but like the other commentors said, the chance is very small that it appears on the net. Try to stay positive :)
 
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i dont think he can find you if he doesnt have your real name :hug:

that type of thing is why i wont use skype, theres a lot of creeps on there and i had a bad experience there myself so dont feel comfortable using it :hug:
Hello,
I had an online date with a guy who seemed very nice. at first. We started chatting and then he proposed to add me on Skype for a video call.
The conversation took a turn and became very sexual… At the end, he told me that he recorded me and if I didn't do everything he asked he would post the video on the internet.
I never showed him ma full face, but sometimes when I moved, we could see my face. He sent me screen shots after I hung up and I am recognizable…
He doesn't have my real name though.
He kept asking me to call him back after I hung up to finish "pleasing him". I got scared and I deleted my skype account (that I made with a fake name)
I am sick to my stomach, I am very scared that the video will leak.
He said he was in the US but he could be anywhere. I don't have his real name either, and I am not able to find him if the video ever leaks to press charges.
I am so scared… Am I in danger even if he doesn't have my real name?
This is driving crazy, I can't sleep, I can't eat and I am so scared...
I've tried not putting myself in positions like this but how the internet is now a days everyone can see everything. You have to make sure you always protect yourself. Please never talk to this person again. And be more careful on dating sites, dont just give anyone your phone number, and be comfortable with whoever your talking with. On the internet I find that there's always an article or person to get you through difficult times, but getting close is natural but can also be unsafe.

Taked care and..welcomes..
:grouphug:
 
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The best thing to do with an internet blackmailer like him is to ignore him. Don't answer anything, no messages, no acknowledgements. He has nothing to go on.
It is sad to see this happen and stressful, but that's what he wants. Don't give it to him. He is in the past.
 
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