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Recognizing and dealing with 'Unhelpful thoughts'.

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handheart

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I think thoughts are the most powerfulthings in this world and people should be very careful what they think because its create our reality .Many people say blaa bla bla Law of TTraction its just wisful thinking its not real but in my opinion its very real everithing its by the mood you think .And anxiety its also dependent on thoughts ,you must be careful what you think .anxiety usualy its caused by a big trauma shock ,stress etc that cause a drauma in your life .So change thoughts focus on positive things find what you love and think only there and easy easy you will change your life
 
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Stella139

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Thanks for the great comments. I seem to find myself ruminating the past. For example I just attended a family get together and I can't stop re-playing conversations in my head. My family can be a tough crowd, and while I'm glad I forced myself to go, I'm sure I didn't handle it very well. I'm a person that is sure if my foot isn't in my mouth, it would get lost....... The party was on Saturday the 30th, and I'm still struggling with left over anxiety. I didn't sleep at all last night, and I'm feeling pretty fragile.
Does anyone else do this?
 
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bunkerRAM

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lot of this sounds like me scary went it put into word but true even worst living it
 
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Nerdy

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Thank you very much for posting this !!! I really need it..!!! The last 2 days I have been excessively anxious with no reason exept that my siblings are here for summer but I am very glad that are here so I can"t understand why i felt like i did..anyway..today i felt really bad for myself cause i was thinking "i will never feel normal again","i will always feel anxious and sooo bad like i did", "how am i suppose to find a job if i become anxious every time i live the house" and thoughts like that..and i really felt very bad for myself until i read this and gave me courage..thank you!!!
 
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cantescape

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This is brilliant!! Need ti print it off and remind myself all the time. Thank you x
 
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Liz871

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I think we have all had those self doubting thoughts before. Think of it like this- would you be friends with yourself? Meaning that you wouldn't be friends with someone who was always putting you down. Also, find ways to compliment yourself. You may even want to write down a list of your positive attributes and take pride in them :)
 
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sheeba8188

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Great post it reminds me very much of the videos on YouTube by Noah Elkrief.

He has also written a book which I am yet to read but plan to at some point as I found what he says very relevant to myself in challenging unwanted thoughts.
 
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sheeba8188

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This sounds alot like the Noah Elkrief stuff I have been looking at, but personally at the time when I get these thoughts regardless whether the thoughts are true or not I'm going to believe them anyway as much as I try to disbelieve them and logically think about it. None the less great post thanks.
 
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Nicely summarized. The problem with we is I'm usually fully capable of thinking more 'objectively', it just doesn't make any difference to me. Thinking that "I'm unreasonable right now, I know this is very likely not a realistic representation of my current situation", but it doesn't make any difference, the anxiety doesn't go away. I guess it can help in not making stupid decisions based on anxiety, but it doesn't help much at all for me with feeling more at ease or anything.
 
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Motifator

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I have been having the same word in my head it is there all the time the word us "aids"...i don't have aids but that word lingers in my mind. Anyone else experience like this. It doesn't really affect my sleep and i get through the day but it's annoying. I have and have had for a while tinnitis ringing in ear
 
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09leya

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Hi there,

I have such a bad habit of catastrophising too! I've started a blog to allow me to get it on out onto the screen and see before me how irrational it is- I recommend doing a similar exercise! My blog is a mixture of personal posts and creative writing pieces inspired by my experiences.
x x
 
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Hi there,

I have such a bad habit of catastrophising too! I've started a blog to allow me to get it on out onto the screen and see before me how irrational it is- I recommend doing a similar exercise! My blog is a mixture of personal posts and creative writing pieces inspired by my experiences.
x x
did you realise that this post is an old one more than 12 months since the last activity !
 
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Ratgirl

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Hey guys. I'm new to this forum. I have major anxiety in relation to relationships and I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I have serious problems with predicting the future and negative thoughts. Thought these forums might help me.
 
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