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Recognizing and dealing with 'Unhelpful thoughts'.

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cantescape

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#21
This is brilliant!! Need ti print it off and remind myself all the time. Thank you x
 
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#22
I think we have all had those self doubting thoughts before. Think of it like this- would you be friends with yourself? Meaning that you wouldn't be friends with someone who was always putting you down. Also, find ways to compliment yourself. You may even want to write down a list of your positive attributes and take pride in them :)
 
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#23
Great post it reminds me very much of the videos on YouTube by Noah Elkrief.

He has also written a book which I am yet to read but plan to at some point as I found what he says very relevant to myself in challenging unwanted thoughts.
 
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sheeba8188

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#24
This sounds alot like the Noah Elkrief stuff I have been looking at, but personally at the time when I get these thoughts regardless whether the thoughts are true or not I'm going to believe them anyway as much as I try to disbelieve them and logically think about it. None the less great post thanks.
 
ARKSatMidnight

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#25
Nicely summarized. The problem with we is I'm usually fully capable of thinking more 'objectively', it just doesn't make any difference to me. Thinking that "I'm unreasonable right now, I know this is very likely not a realistic representation of my current situation", but it doesn't make any difference, the anxiety doesn't go away. I guess it can help in not making stupid decisions based on anxiety, but it doesn't help much at all for me with feeling more at ease or anything.
 
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I have been having the same word in my head it is there all the time the word us "aids"...i don't have aids but that word lingers in my mind. Anyone else experience like this. It doesn't really affect my sleep and i get through the day but it's annoying. I have and have had for a while tinnitis ringing in ear
 
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Hi there,

I have such a bad habit of catastrophising too! I've started a blog to allow me to get it on out onto the screen and see before me how irrational it is- I recommend doing a similar exercise! My blog is a mixture of personal posts and creative writing pieces inspired by my experiences.
x x
 
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blacksmoke

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#28
Hi there,

I have such a bad habit of catastrophising too! I've started a blog to allow me to get it on out onto the screen and see before me how irrational it is- I recommend doing a similar exercise! My blog is a mixture of personal posts and creative writing pieces inspired by my experiences.
x x
did you realise that this post is an old one more than 12 months since the last activity !
 
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Hey guys. I'm new to this forum. I have major anxiety in relation to relationships and I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I have serious problems with predicting the future and negative thoughts. Thought these forums might help me.
 
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#32
This is absolutely spot on, thank you for sharing all of that information!
 
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#33
thanks for this article. post. My mother often has such negative assumption of this happening. Sometimes it's paranoia. I have to show it to her
 
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#34
Thanks for posting this. I feel like this could have been written about me. I guess in a way, it's a comfort because I know I'm not unique. Other people have felt the same as me before.

Being judged negatively by others:
•They think I'm useless
•They won't like me


This is one of my main sources of anxiety - worrying about what people think of me or more accurately, what I think they think about me. I like myself but I sometimes get it into my head that my friends don't like me. I know it's paranoia but the thoughts still creep in.

Mind Reading:

This means that you make assumptions about others' beliefs without having any real evidence to support them. For example: •My boss thinks I'm stupid.
•People think I'm weird.
Such ways of thinking naturally make us apprehensive.


I'm also guilty of this. Again, it's paranoia in action. I know that my friends and family do like me and that just because they haven't liked or commented on one of my Facebook posts, it doesn't mean they don't like me in real life. However, it doesn't stop the niggling thoughts creeping in every now and again.


How you feel: Nervous, stressed and apprehensive.

Yep. Thankfully I don't feel like this every day. I do need to get better at recognising my thought patterns and realising that some of my thoughts are not helpful. I can't stop them coming but I can stop ruminating.
 
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#35
From experience, I know that some unhelpful thinking patterns have come out of bad relationships and interactions with people, but actively stopping those thoughts and finding ways to deal with them is a challenge. I tend to use journaling a lot to clear the unwanted thoughts from my mind; I get them down and then respond to them (in the journal entry) in a rational way, sometimes even talking directly to myself through the words.
 
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#36
Thanks very much...this is the sort of thing I needed to read to get round and help me with my thoughts etc.