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Recent death of a parent - stepparent making advances

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FirstTimeUser

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Seeking advice on how to approach a situation that has recently occurred. Mind you, I'm married and have a family of my own who is also in the home while this situation occurred.

As I'm still grieving the loss of my parent. I'm in their home visiting my stepparent (of 25+yrs of their marriage) who is also dealing with the loss. The stepparent who had been drinking made advances saying how much they wanted to be with me. Words of I want to make love to you.

We left the following morning but no deep conversation has been discussed about the situation the previous night.
 
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Hi,
I'm so sorry for your loss, I recently lost my dad so here to listen if you want to talk.
That's terrible about the advance they made towards you, try never to be alone with them.
Take care
 
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Have you ever had reason to be wary of him in the past. If not could it be that he was very drunk and in distress and didn’t realise what he’s said. I know that’s no excuse but if you’ve never doubted him before maybe he will wake up and be mortified. I would suggest you just keep your distance from him for the time being
 
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@Mayflower7, @daffy
Thanks! Yes, I think distance is the best at this time.

Nothing has ever occurred at all like this over the years. My stepparent has always been a heavy drinker but nothing has ever transpired like this.
 
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It's shocking when something so inappropriate happens. My son came home drunk and was extremely over bearing. I'm not saying being drunk is an excuse but it can unleash repressed ideas. I'm sorry you lost your beloved parent. My mother died September 24th. Do you want to some day confront him about this incident ?
 
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It's shocking when something so inappropriate happens. My son came home drunk and was extremely over bearing. I'm not saying being drunk is an excuse but it can unleash repressed ideas. I'm sorry you lost your beloved parent. My mother died September 24th. Do you want to some day confront him about this incident ?
Yes.
I want to be civil about it and not sure how to go about it. Being the intoxication I'm thinking denial and anger or even rage.... Which is very concerning.
 
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