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AnnaBanana267

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My boyfriend has seemed detached for a little while now. Even though I can be too sensitive and overly reactive to things in my relationships, I felt this distance in my gut. And tonight we briefly talked about it on video and he admitted what I guessed was true. Said that he was troubled about work about the situation with his ex and his kids and about us. I am so scared that he wants to break up with me. I know I have not been necessarily easy to be with in the couple of months we have been together. He doesn’t worry about Covid as much as I do he sees more people and spends less time freaking out like I do as I have health anxiety and go overboard with my worries. And there is a big difference between us. He is anxious to get out to do things with friends again and to go traveling, things that scare me. It had come up before as a possible thing that might us up.
And I have been honest with him about my health anxiety and my BPD traits. I don’t know maybe I have told him too much and it is scaring him off. I’m not always fun to be with but people tell me I’m a good person and kind and sweet and attractive too.
He wants to talk to his sponsor first about everything (he is in the same 12 step program that I am in; that’s how we met) and asked if I want to go for a walk tomorrow afternoon (our regular weekend habit). I said to him that if he decides upon breaking up with me, I wouldn’t want to see him, but getting a text would be sufficient because it would be too hard to see him.
It’s been a bad afternoon: I found out a young friend of mine died, less than 30 years old, don’t know what of, but it’s a tragedy. And now this happened this evening.. I am having an awful night.
 
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I am sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. I hope all goes well tomorrow and that you enjoy your walk together.
 
AnnaBanana267

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Well it didn’t go well: he broke up w me (posted about it).:low:
 
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