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Radical Acceptance

Lunus

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I have many things to face using Radical Acceptance, many traumatic experiences to accept, in order that I can accept myself in the here and now, the present moment.
Today I faced one of my biggest fears, my little sister taking her own life. I’m not going into detail but my thoughts included sad, emotional, distraught, grief stricken and responsible. I haven’t cried as much since my mother died many years ago.
I calmed myself using mindfulness, took many deep breaths and just about got myself grounded. I let the emotions grow like a wave and waited for them to subside. They did. It’s been a couple of hours and I’m still shaking a bit but underneath I have a calmness. Also a real sense of achievement.i have less fear facing other traumatic events now and I’m going to do them this weekend. This fucking illness is NOT going to define me!
 
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Oh honey. Hug.
Thank you. 😁 In case you don’t know Radical Acceptance, you do the above, then ground yourself in the present moment (I used Mindfulness techniques) and then you retell your story without judgement.
So painful yet so therapeutic and strangely calming. Thank you for being there. x
 
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Thanks for sharing it with us.

I'm sorry for your little sister. I m trying to imagine how painful can be...
 
Lunus

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Thanks for sharing it with us.

I'm sorry for your little sister. I m trying to imagine how painful can be...
Please don’t dwell on this and the pain and suffering caused. I know we have a tendency to feel other’s emotions but that’s the last thing i want to do is make others feel unhappy.
 
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Hi lunas I’m so sorry about your sister, but please don’t try and hide your grief. There is no shame in crying and being angry and hurt. It all the normal procedure in a bereavement. Yes keep up with mindfulness to help calm yourself but don’t ignore your normal emotions.
You may find that some bereavement counselling may help you :hug:
 
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Hi lunas I’m so sorry about your sister, but please don’t try and hide your grief. There is no shame in crying and being angry and hurt. It all the normal procedure in a bereavement. Yes keep up with mindfulness to help calm yourself but don’t ignore your normal emotions.
You may find that some bereavement counselling may help you :hug:
Thanks for the advice. I’ve never faced my trauma before now, I’ve always detached and buried it, hence the Radical Acceptance. It feels good to have finally grieved for her and I think I now have Acceptance of the situation.
I now have to do Radically Acceptance for my father, mother and other sister which will be equally as traumatic but I know I’ll feel better with all my emotions out and by facing them.
 
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