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[Hopelessdepressedandpinkfloydlover]

Hi, guys and girls.
I wanted to ask you if any have experienced the same.
I can't make friends easily or maintain them.
Thing is I can't trust on people even on my family to express my feelings. And I have noticed, when i trust someone and that someone hurts me someway, somehow, I abruptly stop trusting in that someone. And even if that someone didn't broke my trust, just hurt me.
And as hard as I try I just can't make it better.
Happened with my sister, my family and friends I lost.

Wondering, have something like this happened to one of you guys?

 

[bpd2020]

It sounds to me like you feel hurt a lot and this could be a way to protect yourself from more hurt.

 

[Hopelessdepressedandpinkfloydlover]

It sounds to me like you feel hurt a lot and this could be a way to protect yourself from more hurt.

You are definitely rigth. Have you experienced something like it?

 

[bpd2020]

You are definitely rigth. Have you experienced something like it?

Yes I have. I have often cut off from people who hurt me as I was unable to cope.

 

[Sash1]

Hi..yes, I'm the same. I don't have too many people around me anymore as once they hurt me or break my trust in them, I literally just cut them out of my life.
I have beat myself up many times thinking it must be me, that I'm too fussy or hard on people, or I'm not giving people a fair chance, or these people don't live up to my standard s of friendship etc, why can't they be as loyal or trusting as I am, or simply, I remove them from my life 'before' they get the chance to hurt me.
But now, I have to think to myself, I would rather have a handful of true friends, than a room full of 'so called aqauntancies' I've filtered the people I don't need around me, the ones that are not important enough to cause any pain or hurt. The toxic ones.
I know this might not be the 'normal' thing to do, but in my small world, it saves me a whole lot of grief, anxieties and trying to work out who I can trust anymore.

 

[OmniscientNihilist]

 

[Hopelessdepressedandpinkfloydlover]

Hi..yes, I'm the same. I don't have too many people around me anymore as once they hurt me or break my trust in them, I literally just cut them out of my life.
I have beat myself up many times thinking it must be me, that I'm too fussy or hard on people, or I'm not giving people a fair chance, or these people don't live up to my standard s of friendship etc, why can't they be as loyal or trusting as I am, or simply, I remove them from my life 'before' they get the chance to hurt me.
But now, I have to think to myself, I would rather have a handful of true friends, than a room full of 'so called aqauntancies' I've filtered the people I don't need around me, the ones that are not important enough to cause any pain or hurt. The toxic ones.
I know this might not be the 'normal' thing to do, but in my small world, it saves me a whole lot of grief, anxieties and trying to work out who I can trust anymore.

I see, i have that thing where i kinda want to send them a message or try to talk to them. And then i feel like that's a mistake and i don't do it.
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