Marchhare - it sounds (and I want to emphasise sounds!) as if the psychologist you have seen is taking a Cognitive approach - Cognitive approaches concentrate on the here and now and altering 'current' thinking. It also sounds from what you have said that this is probably not the right approach as far as you are concerned. I am being very tentative here because none of us here are professionals.
I can however relate to what you are saying in that Cognitive approaches proved useless in my own case and it was only when I found a psychologist with a quite different approach that I started to make progress by going back into the past and gaining understanding. For other people the Cognitive/present approach works well it should be said.
Now what ought to happen, if the therapist has been listening to you during this assessment, is that they recommend a suitable therapist for you as an individual. I hope this will happen. But if it does not then you have every right to insist that you are given access to appropriate treatment.
I should also say that other forms of psychotherapy which involve going into the past are a long and often difficult business; this may be why some therapists prefer to avoid them.
However it is certainly not too late and you should certainly not give up hope. I was nearing 50 when I got the right psychologist!!

rolleyes: that may not be helpful but is an illustration). Let us know what they tell you the results of the assessment are.
Best,
Nick.