Hi Anastassia
I wonder what is it that drives you to keep making these promises? Do you feel bad if you don't keep them? You don't have to tell me, but I wonder if you thought about what drives you to keep making promises you might get to understand the issue a bit more.
I think it is unwise to promise someone that you won't upset them anymore, I don't really think anyone can make that promise and keep to it, because sometimes we say things that might unintentionally upset someone, you can not always predict others response to things.
I think most people to a certain degree think things like "he won't be upset about this" before we do something, and genuinely believe he won't. However as I said earlier we can never say for sure because everyone is different and has a whole bunch of thoughts, feelings and history that we can't always predict. But I feel there are times when we would wish someone would have a certain reaction because of how we feel about it, rather than actually thinking about what they really may feel, if that makes sense.
If making promises you can't keep is becoming a real issue for you, why don't you try taking a deep breath, and really think about the realities of that promise. It might help you to ask yourself, can you really keep it? Do you have the skills/time/experience/energy to keep it? Is the person I'm making a promise to, really wanting a promise from me, have they asked me to make a promise?
If you answer no to any of those questions then personally I would not make it. I hope that helps in some way.
