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gurl2134

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So I’m facing a a situation. About a month ago my boyfriend was accused of cheating. The situation had since been solved and in conclusion that accusation was false. But here’s the problem, my parents don’t believe my boyfriend didn’t cheat. They have their mind made up. My boyfriend said that he wanted to take the time to talk to my parents face to face about the whole situation at hand, but my parents kept saying no they weren’t ready. So finally my boyfriend said if they don’t want to talk to me I’m not going to try to talk to them anymore. So when my parents asked to talk to him or anything, he told me “I’m not doing that, they had their chance”. So my parents are offended that my boyfriend won’t come over to my house and talk to them, and my boyfriend is upset because of how they acted. In all honesty, I want everyone to be happy. I want to make my parents happy, but them being “happy” is me ending my relationship with my boyfriend. I love my boyfriend and I want to marry him one day, I will always fight for him. I just want the situation dealt with. Idk what to do about all of this. Idk who to talk to, who hadn’t taken a side in this situation. It’s giving me suicidal thoughts and I feel like I can’t take it anymore. I’m so scared. I don’t want to loose my boyfriend he makes me happy and I love him with all my heart. I just feel alone in this situation.
 
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*Just to point out, my parents never actually told me they don’t want me with my boyfriend, it just always felt that way to me
 
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What made your parents think he was cheating on you? I am a parent and I would be resilient in talking to someone that my daughter had second thoughts about. I am so glad your boyfriend wants to talk to them This is a good sign and soon enough your parents will talk to him No fears and No worries Julies
 
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This girl I was friends with at the time told me and my parents a lie about him, so that’s what got it started
 
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Hi @gurl2134 if your old enough to do as you please then think of yourself and what makes you happy as we all learn from our own mistakes in life and if your boyfriend loves you the same and the accusations are false as you've stated then he doesn't need to be bothered about speaking with your parents, as he's going out with you not your parents.

My mom caused all the trouble she could to split me with my 1st hubby but we split in the end as he did go with another woman and I sensed this plus confronted him and then she tried again with my husband i'm with now but didn't succeed thank god.

No disrespect to your parents but sometimes with my experience nobody is good enough for their child and they shouldn't let it carry on, it should be dropped on their aspect knowing how you go with your health. :hug:
 
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Parents are being unreasonable IMO. They should go with what makes you happy. It's not their place to judge your relationships. Poor behaviour from the parents really.
 
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Parents are being unreasonable IMO. They should go with what makes you happy. It's not their place to judge your relationships. Poor behaviour from the parents really.
Well said hicks 👏 parents can be to much at times and don't realise the pressure they're putting on their childrens mind, no wonder half of we end up with mental illnesses through stupid pressure :rolleyes:
 
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