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Problems with drinking while having anxiety?

elliepaige20

elliepaige20

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Hi everyone, so lately I've made some fantastic new friends who are very social and have really brought me out of my comfort zone, in a good way. They invite me out often and I will drink alcohol to some extent. However, I find that no matter how little I drink, I find myself blacking out, doing embarrassing things and just not remembering anything that happened. I can feel perfectly sober and then out of nowhere, my memory just disappears. I eat plenty throughout the day and I don't think I drink that much alcohol to get to this stage, so I'm not sure why this happens sometimes unless the drink in general just doesn't agree with me. I'm quite a bit younger than some of these friends, so they're definitely more used to drinking. Whenever I wake up from a black-out, this can often result in panic attacks due to the uncertainty and the scariness of it all. My friends will usually tell me that I was fine, and will let me know some of the things I did/said which normally aren't even that bad. They usually just say how funny I was being. I just hate not being in control and not remembering anything, and I know that the simple solution would be to not drink at all, but then at the same time I do enjoy going out for a drink and socialising with these new friends. The other night at a friend's barbecue, I apparently poured a bit of drink over one of my friends. He said it was fine, he understood I was drunk, it would wash out, it was funny etc, so I know he's fine with me but after hearing about it I was absolutely mortified. I just wish I could stop feeling so embarrassed all the time, or just stop embarrassing myself in general. I was just wondering if anyone else has a similar thing with alcohol. I currently take Sertraline 100mg so I don't know if mixing that with alcohol is what's doing it? I've drunk plenty before and never used to have this issue, it's literally just been within the last few months. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you xx
 
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this sounds to me much more like a very specific medical question for the doctor that I'm not sure others here would be able to answer.

Although I do understand the concern, and yes I would think its not great to be blacking out and you want to prevent that. I don't think that can be caused by anxiety alone, but given your medicines it might be some combination. Many medications for anxiety can make it easier to become intoxicated or worse.
 
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Hi everyone, so lately I've made some fantastic new friends who are very social and have really brought me out of my comfort zone, in a good way. They invite me out often and I will drink alcohol to some extent. However, I find that no matter how little I drink, I find myself blacking out, doing embarrassing things and just not remembering anything that happened. I can feel perfectly sober and then out of nowhere, my memory just disappears. I eat plenty throughout the day and I don't think I drink that much alcohol to get to this stage, so I'm not sure why this happens sometimes unless the drink in general just doesn't agree with me. I'm quite a bit younger than some of these friends, so they're definitely more used to drinking. Whenever I wake up from a black-out, this can often result in panic attacks due to the uncertainty and the scariness of it all. My friends will usually tell me that I was fine, and will let me know some of the things I did/said which normally aren't even that bad. They usually just say how funny I was being. I just hate not being in control and not remembering anything, and I know that the simple solution would be to not drink at all, but then at the same time I do enjoy going out for a drink and socialising with these new friends. The other night at a friend's barbecue, I apparently poured a bit of drink over one of my friends. He said it was fine, he understood I was drunk, it would wash out, it was funny etc, so I know he's fine with me but after hearing about it I was absolutely mortified. I just wish I could stop feeling so embarrassed all the time, or just stop embarrassing myself in general. I was just wondering if anyone else has a similar thing with alcohol. I currently take Sertraline 100mg so I don't know if mixing that with alcohol is what's doing it? I've drunk plenty before and never used to have this issue, it's literally just been within the last few months. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you xx
I am also on 100mg of Sertraline. My advice would be to not drink any alcohol at all whilst on this medication. From being a heavy drinker I find after one alcoholic drink I am very unsteady on my feet and staggering around and after two I feel completely drunk. Alcohol was a coping mechanism for me to socialise but no longer. If I were you I wouldn’t drink alcohol when you go out, if at all possible or if you feel you need to, I think you’d need to change your medication.
 
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Alcohol increases anxiety. If you absolutely must drink maybe stick to drink half a glass or something. Or do the hard thing that gives you the most benefit long term, go out and socialize and dance and have fun WITHOUT drinking. It is a possibility you know. Being sober and going to parties greatly increases chances to meet a nice girl and have good things happen. If you make a habit of being the clown that is what you will become in the end so be careful with that.
 
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this sounds to me much more like a very specific medical question for the doctor that I'm not sure others here would be able to answer.

Although I do understand the concern, and yes I would think its not great to be blacking out and you want to prevent that. I don't think that can be caused by anxiety alone, but given your medicines it might be some combination. Many medications for anxiety can make it easier to become intoxicated or worse.
Hey thank you, I'm thinking of speaking to my counsellor about it and then possibly my doctor as I definitely think it could be a weird combination of medication and drink. The blacking out part is really scary and I definitely want to avoid it as much as possible.
 
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I am also on 100mg of Sertraline. My advice would be to not drink any alcohol at all whilst on this medication. From being a heavy drinker I find after one alcoholic drink I am very unsteady on my feet and staggering around and after two I feel completely drunk. Alcohol was a coping mechanism for me to socialise but no longer. If I were you I wouldn’t drink alcohol when you go out, if at all possible or if you feel you need to, I think you’d need to change your medication.
Hi there, yeah I definitely thought it could be an odd combination. I definitely want to try not drinking, the only problem is, I often feel like I can't loosen up without a drink or be as social as I'd like to be, so it's a bit of a catch 22. I don't want to annoy people with my drunken antics, but I also don't want to be really anxious and unsociable. I may talk to my counsellor when I see her tonight and see what she thinks, and then I might book a doctors appointment. Thank you x
 
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Alcohol increases anxiety. If you absolutely must drink maybe stick to drink half a glass or something. Or do the hard thing that gives you the most benefit long term, go out and socialize and dance and have fun WITHOUT drinking. It is a possibility you know. Being sober and going to parties greatly increases chances to meet a nice girl and have good things happen. If you make a habit of being the clown that is what you will become in the end so be careful with that.
Hey, you're right I definitely don't want to keep embarrassing myself in front of people, however, I find that if I don't have a drink I can't really loosen up and relax, so it's two different extremes. I've been trying to eat more throughout the day if I'm going out in the evening, which sometimes does help. I'll try maybe a few evenings out without drinking and then see how I feel. Thank you for your advice :)
 
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however, I find that if I don't have a drink I can't really loosen up and relax,
yeah that is the hard part, it takes some time to learn and you gotta build good selfesteem everyday to get really comfy, workout, excel in a hobby and shit so you feel you have things going that are good and talk about and show off, also simply practice partying without drugs. Long term you can only hope that ageing and experience will get you more relaxed, the more you drink though the more you risk always relying on it and more, you risk actually becoming worse then you are now, cause it adds anxiety, not only by things you do, also chemically. I'm not some anti alcohol fanatic, I do drink at times myself, but mostly not that much and often I also do not drink at all, cause I think its important to develop those skills without being dependent on a drug.

I drank a lot during my early 20ths, and in hindsight, if only I had developed what I later did back then, I would have accomplished so much more (mostly with girls).

Making an effort to party without drugs, so I can let loose with a clear head and try hunting for a nice girl if I want to, was the best thing I ever did.

I get that its really awkward to not drink if you are young in some situations. But keep my advice in mind, should you start slipping into a zone where things just overall feel bad, not going your way, anxiety increase and spreads into more "relaxed" social situations, its the alcohol thats gotta go to make better. Its quite common that what once was partying somewhere and having some drinks turns into, predrinks at someones home, before the preparty before going to a dancehall, so what was drinking a few and having fun turns into drinking from 17:00-03:00 and that is a really slippery slope.

Also alcohol makes most people (not all) fat. I thought you were a dude first for some reason and dudes can get by with a beer stomach, girls though that drink, after a few years it takes a really hard toll on their looks, plushy, phat, bad reddish skin, pimples. If you start getting round and phat and don't like it, if you feel you are getting uglier, cut the alcohol and start working out, the sooner the better, its a LONG road back for girls that go deep into that party hole and add weight (yes not all do), if they even get back its several years of disciplined workout required. There is no diet in the world that will help if you are a serious party animal. Also the common response when getting uglier is not to change lifestyle, as you get more anxiety the solution your body already knows is to drink, so drinking starts becoming a thing you do 4-5 times a week just to feel better about yourself when in fact the culprit is the alcohol.

Its a devious drug.

So party on, but do it in moderation and when you have the opportunity try practice partying without alcohol or any drugs. And try adding workout to your weekly schedule, your future self will thank you for it both in regards to selfesteem and looks, you need something that offsets all extra calories that you put in.
 
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yeah that is the hard part, it takes some time to learn and you gotta build good selfesteem everyday to get really comfy, workout, excel in a hobby and shit so you feel you have things going that are good and talk about and show off, also simply practice partying without drugs. Long term you can only hope that ageing and experience will get you more relaxed, the more you drink though the more you risk always relying on it and more, you risk actually becoming worse then you are now, cause it adds anxiety, not only by things you do, also chemically. I'm not some anti alcohol fanatic, I do drink at times myself, but mostly not that much and often I also do not drink at all, cause I think its important to develop those skills without being dependent on a drug.

I drank a lot during my early 20ths, and in hindsight, if only I had developed what I later did back then, I would have accomplished so much more (mostly with girls).

Making an effort to party without drugs, so I can let loose with a clear head and try hunting for a nice girl if I want to, was the best thing I ever did.

I get that its really awkward to not drink if you are young in some situations. But keep my advice in mind, should you start slipping into a zone where things just overall feel bad, not going your way, anxiety increase and spreads into more "relaxed" social situations, its the alcohol thats gotta go to make better. Its quite common that what once was partying somewhere and having some drinks turns into, predrinks at someones home, before the preparty before going to a dancehall, so what was drinking a few and having fun turns into drinking from 17:00-03:00 and that is a really slippery slope.

Also alcohol makes most people (not all) fat. I thought you were a dude first for some reason and dudes can get by with a beer stomach, girls though that drink, after a few years it takes a really hard toll on their looks, plushy, phat, bad reddish skin, pimples. If you start getting round and phat and don't like it, if you feel you are getting uglier, cut the alcohol and start working out, the sooner the better, its a LONG road back for girls that go deep into that party hole and add weight (yes not all do), if they even get back its several years of disciplined workout required. There is no diet in the world that will help if you are a serious party animal. Also the common response when getting uglier is not to change lifestyle, as you get more anxiety the solution your body already knows is to drink, so drinking starts becoming a thing you do 4-5 times a week just to feel better about yourself when in fact the culprit is the alcohol.

Its a devious drug.

So party on, but do it in moderation and when you have the opportunity try practice partying without alcohol or any drugs. And try adding workout to your weekly schedule, your future self will thank you for it both in regards to selfesteem and looks, you need something that offsets all extra calories that you put in.

Hey yeah that all makes sense :) I went to see my counsellor last night and she thinks it's definitely the combination of alcohol and the medication I'm on, so I'm arranging a doctors appointment to see if I can either switch to something else or minimise my dosages of Sertaline. I've also read a lot online about people who have had a similar experience with this particular medication. I'm definitely not overly-dependent on alcohol, and it's only ever really a night out on a Friday or a Saturday, or (rarely) both. I can definitely enjoy myself without a drink however I do struggle in social situations especially where others are drinking. I'm having a party for my 21st this year and I want to be able to have a drink, while also maintaining my composure. I used to be able to drink very well and not black out, but now since being on this medication that's changed significantly.

I feel like I'm getting to a place emotionally where I can come off the higher dosage of Sertraline, but obviously I'll have to do that gradually. Because Sertraline is an anti-depressant, and alcohol is a depressant, they're basically fighting against each other. This may also mix in with my low b12, which I get injections for every three months. I've definitely been trying to practice self care and exercise wherever I can (although going to a gym is still pretty daunting right now!) mainly just going out for long walks, stretching more often etc. I've also been watching what I'm eating so that I'm not putting on a significant amount of weight. Until I'm completely off the medication I'll definitely be drinking in moderation and being really careful. Thank you so much for your advice it's greatly appreciated :) xx
 
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