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Practicing the art of letting go

Kerome

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For a long time I have been working on getting to know myself better. It's been a little like unfolding myself, like a scrunched up sheet of paper where I continually find new thing that are written on little corners as I unwrap them and gradually begin to lay the sheet out flat.

One of the key skills ive used has been the art of letting go. We carry such a heavy load of anxieties and worries and fears from the past, and as you start to discover your own inner nature you find that sometimes you are ready to let things go. It can be a wonderful moment, when you release a habit or a fear.

Sometimes also you have a realisation, like when you first make a real effort to live in the present moment, and you realise how many of your worries have to do with the future, and may never come to pass. At that point you may find a whole lot of things are just let go, and never return...

Here are some websites with more stuff on letting go:
Mindfulness and the Art of Letting Go
The Art of Letting Go
If You Want to Live a More Positive Life, Practice the Art of 'Letting Go' | Inc.com
OM 012: How To Practice The Art Of Letting Go - About Meditation
 
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Hi there, have a look into numerology (YouTube) . I worked mine out from birth and it very interesting to see changes and events unfold with quite good accuracy... Check it out :).
 
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Hi there, have a look into numerology (YouTube) . I worked mine out from birth and it very interesting to see changes and events unfold with quite good accuracy... Check it out :).
Thanks for the pointer, but I'm not a believer :) On the whole I would say most of those things are cleverly written to be very open to interpretation, and people put their own meaning on them. I've had previous encounters with an astrology service which worked like that which a family member was very into.
 
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Numerology is done using your full name, birthday etc so each person has their own life path, cycles and so forth ....you don't have to be a believer to educate yourself in the understanding of the science? Not that I'm pushing in any way, just mentioning it :)
 
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I couldn't access the Do Not Cling To Anything Whatsoever thread. This is a similar topic, Letting Go, of the future, the past, the fears. Letting Go seems to me to be Acceptance. But I've just been through an event with a hurricane where I absolutely could not let go and accept what was happening. I philosophically tell myself these things about acceptance/letting go and I can actually do it, when things are normal. But as soon as a war breaks out, I'm sure all this philosophy goes out the window.
 
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Was thinking the same myself.
 
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Letting go is not just acceptance though - think of it like your fist, with which you are grasping a rock. In order to let go, you have to do more than just accept the situation, you have to think of the areas where you are still clutching things, fears that you have to remember, concepts that once seemed precious but that you no longer need. In order to let go you need to find the muscles in that long disused hand and convince it to open up, and let go of that old useless rock.

In terms of what happens when there's a war, I'm sure some old patterns will reassert themselves. And some will not, if the lesson was well learnt and you've actually let go of a few things. And after a while you'll think why am I holding on to these old things again.
 
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Let's be specific. Letting go of a family member who is toxic makes sense. But there is no letting go for people trapped in a hot building that was 90 degrees with 98% humidity; eight of them died. It was an old folks home and the stupid staff thought the elderly could withstand the heat. They wanted the old folks to let go of the concept of being comfortable. Ironically, there was an air conditioned HOSPITAL literally across the street. The staff thought they had to let go of normal standards and accept the extreme situation. What was needed was an emergency intervention, which finally came when the ER doctors/nurses went across the street to see what was going on. Letting go should not be used when Right Action is required.
 
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Sure, one has to choose the appropriate tool for the job.

Also, we all live in our minds. The first thing you let go of is your mind's representation of things. So not the care home residents, but your mental impression of the residents.
 
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i need to let go of my urge that makes me communicate with people when i have a high libido. i need to find other safer ways of relief, and i need to let go of the feeling that i need someone for relief.

f my high libido.
 
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Try to be mindful, and let things take their course.
Then your mind will become still in any surroundings, like a still forest pool.
All kinds of wonderful animals will come to drink at the pool,
and you will clearly see the nature of all things.
You will see many strange and wonderful things come and go, but you will be still.
This is the happiness of the Awakened One.

~Ajahn Chah ‘A Still Forest Pool’
 
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I like that quote by Ajahn Chah, in a way it is also about letting go. If you can be as a forest pool, and letting strange animals drink and come and go, then you have also let go of judgment, of attachment.

But thats quite advanced, quite extreme. Most people have enough difficulties with letting go of just simple things, like a past obsession. For example, I had a difficult stepmother, and it took me a long time to learn to see her clearly, to appreciate her good qualities despite the difficulties we had. Before she died, she went through some difficult times with a stroke, but she passed beautifully. I think that over the years I have made peace with her and been able to let her go...

Letting go is a skill you can learn, and achieve greater peace and freedom from it.
 
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Do everything with a mind that lets go. Don’t accept praise or gain or anything else. If you let go a little you a will have a little peace; if you let go a lot you will have a lot of peace; if you let go completely you will have complete peace.

— Ajahn Chah
 
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