Sorry I didn't explain much in my earlier post, baby was grizzling! I've got bipolar and have a 6 month old son. I got through the pregnancy and birth fairly ok, and apart from a few wobbly weeks to start with have coped ok. The last five weeks I've really started struggling though. I was really unwell physically about seven weeks ago then moved house four weeks ago, obviously very stressful in itself. Also baby has completely lost his sleep routine since we moved so am also very very tired. Been feeling so ill the last week that the crisis team have been involved. Daily visits, meds been increased etc. Anyway cut a long story short have been offered a place at a mother and baby unit in Eastbourne. Am so undecided what to do. I'm scared to go, and scared not to go and accept the help they have offered. If it was just me I would go. But I don't want to unsettle baby again. I know I need to get some help and I need to get better as when I'm at my worst I feel so unwell, but because I can function fairly well it will be very hard to not be allowed to care for my baby all the time. Just don't know what to do for the best? Am worried that social services will start interfering too. There are no problems with bonding or how I care for baby at all. He's very happy and the light of my life just be nice if I could hear some views on the eastbourne clinic. Whether good or bad, just to get an idea of what I would be letting myself in for if I did decide to go. X
dont know about that one, i just regret declining an offer of mum and baby unit when my youngest was a few weeks old then when i was willing to go in there was no place so i was forced to give up breastfeeding and go into ordinary hospital for 5 weeks and miss so much of him. despite all this not even the health visitor got involved never mind social services.
whats the alternative if you dont go?
If you are feeling so unwell that the crisis team are involved and things are in a state of flux at home, it might be wise to stabilise somewhere where people understand what is going on and can support you and keep some of the stress of the house move and a newborn away from you....hopefully it would be quiet enough for you to sleep there and you would get the odd night feed off?
Do they know that there is no issue with bonding? I think I would reinforce that one.
What does your partner think? His view is important. It's his baby too, and he might not want to be separated from you both. Perhaps he could help more if you stayed at home.
I suppose the main thing is to balance this all against the possibility of an episode that will involve you ending up in a psych unit. That would make things difficult, and is hardly the right place for a baby with all the noise.
I should talk it through with your partner, see what support can be offered at home...practical stuff I would think....and then ask for a visit to the mother and baby unit to see if it would help you. Perhaps you could meet the staff and other mothers and talk things through. That would be a better way to judge than asking for an opinion on here perhaps.
Good luck with it. It's a precious time when you're baby is born..but fraught too..I would do anything I could to ease the pressure and gain the support I needed.
I hope you both find the right solution.