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Posting about my mental health on facebook - good or bad idea?

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ELO73

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I'm sick of pretending that everything is fine. It's not! I've lost my job because of my mental health illness and I feel as though I am silenced by my situation. I had a nervous breakdown in November and have not posted anything of a personal nature about myself since then. I don't want to post anything unnerving, but other people are talking about what is wrong with me and I feel as though I can't say anything. By posting one update about what I'm going through would give me control over the situation. While I am silent and others whisper, I'm not in control.

So.....good or bad idea? Is a public post admitting to a nervous breakdown going to be career ruining? But hey, I just lost my job so I can argue that it's ruined already!

Any advice?
 
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I'm sick of pretending that everything is fine. It's not! I've lost my job because of my mental health illness and I feel as though I am silenced by my situation. I had a nervous breakdown in November and have not posted anything of a personal nature about myself since then. I don't want to post anything unnerving, but other people are talking about what is wrong with me and I feel as though I can't say anything. By posting one update about what I'm going through would give me control over the situation. While I am silent and others whisper, I'm not in control.

So.....good or bad idea? Is a public post admitting to a nervous breakdown going to be career ruining? But hey, I just lost my job so I can argue that it's ruined already!

Any advice?
I'm not certain, it's completely up to you, we are all different. But, personally, I don't think I would. But that's just me.
 
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I agree with missme . I personally wouldn’t want to post on Facebook for all to see
 
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Well the question to ask yourself is what do you feel you are going to gain by posting on social media?

The only thing I can glean from your post that you would gain from it, is some kind of self liberation - you say that you have felt silenced, but in my opinion there are better ways to offload than through a social media post, which doesn't in reality give you any satisfaction, regardless of what comments and support you get.
Better ways of offloading:
-meet with a close friend or family member, someone you trust, and want to share with them
- offload to a therapist or in a support group
- on online mental health forums such as this one
- writing can help some people to offload

I would much rather the world wasn't still this way and we lived 200 years in the future, but sadly there is still huge stigma attached to mental illness, I would keep it quiet from any future coworkers and bosses, unless you trust them extremely as close friends. I am warning you because I know people who profess the most open minded views to mental illness/human suffering in general, who also I have discovered are extremely prejudiced at the same time and will use your mental illness against you. people in work places are two faced like that. We're not at a stage in society yet where there's public understanding of mental illness and kids aren't really properly educated about in schools - until that happens, society at large will remain ignorant of the realities of it. It will take us a long time to get to that point, it will only happen new understandings in psychology will have to emerge and it will be respectfully portrayed in the media..
I digress. It's not really currently safe to let people know about your mental health struggles. The support people express for you can be phoney.

If you want to at some point later in your career, work as an advocate for mental health/activist for it, that's a different issue, or similar, and I would fully support that. But uploading a personal story at this point is a different story
 
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I'd say posting on facebook is a bad idea. I made the mistake of posting something mental health related on facebook years ago when I was in a dark place and it basically caused a complete shitstorm in the family, as for employers if anyone else saw it they likely decided we will not employ this person :sorry::hug:
 
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I agree is not good idea.
 
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It depends on the environment you have online and the strength you have around it. For one thing, there are a lot of mental health groups on Facebook similar to this forum where people can express themselves, and some people have FB friends who are just more accepting. If they’re not, then it’s possible you can even help others who are being discriminated against for their mental health and start a conversation to encourage others who are worse off to talk about it.

I share my own issues and resources online, and surprisingly it has helped a lot of people. More than I expected. Though if I did so in an earlier time of my life, I wouldn’t be ready for it and it wouldn’t be a good idea.

Should you? Well, it depends really. It depends.
 
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Thanks for all the advice. I haven't posted anything on facebook but still feel aggrieved that I shouldn't. At the end of the day all this does is continue to enable the discrimination against mental health by being scared to speak out. All I wanted was to lay out in a matter of fact way what is going on with me, why I am no longer going to be teaching and hoping that message would help any of my friends to have the courage to seek help if they need it.

And I just cannot with the facebook groups. They scare me!
 
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It's totally your decision.
 
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oh trust me they will whisper even more if you admit that publicly to mental health issues!!
 
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I wouldn't advise it . Someone may be an enemy and use it against you later on in life . Which my cause further anxiety.
 
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