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Post social anxiety limbo

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RoJo

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I used to have bad social anxiety, i couldn't really talk to people or anything. I've started taking a medication for anxiety and it has helped me more than I could have ever hoped for. Now i can talk and laugh with people I barely know and I can even speak in front of crowds with manageable anxiety. One thing I have trouble with is my weak social skills, I spent a lot of my life isolating myself and not developing socially. Even though I'm not really anxious anymore im kinda awkward. Does anyone else have this problem? Any advise?
 
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SomersetScorpio

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First of all, i'm glad that you've found something that's made such an improvement. I'm happy for you that things have got better.

As for the limbo thing, I can totally relate.
What's helping me is being in groups or social situations where I know i'm relatively safe.
I go to a mental health support group and I know nobody there judges me, so it's an ideal place to get better at socialising.

Also, it's important to just be really easy on yourself and know that it's ok if you are still awkward sometimes.
You're learning (or should I say 'unlearning' the social anxiety?) and it's unrealistic to expect to go from being so anxious to totally fine in a short space of time. It's all good practise.
 
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RoJo

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Thanks! That's really comforting, I am kinda hard on myself about this stuff. Defiantly need to lighten up.
 
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Hi RoJo!x

I had this same problem, and it took a lot of work to improve! Even now, I still have things to improve on, but looking back I've come a long way!

YouTube was really useful in preparing me for social situations, and preparation is really important! Sometimes rote learning some small talk can open up easier conversation. The hardest part is switching from private practice to applying it in real life! But the more you practice, the less daunting it becomes and the better you become at it. You also pick up things from other people's conversation - since you won't be talking as much, you can spend more time paying attention to how they talk and what kinds of things they say, and you can take pointers from that!x

All the best in your journey - if you ever want to chat about this, I'd be happy to help over PM!x

Much love <3