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poorly daughter i feel so guilty

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i wrote in my thread about my daughter not eating well she stopped drinking and had to be rushed to hospital on sunday by ambulance, she drank tiny amounts on sunday, the staff made us go home as she was going to be staying overnight i told them about her behaviour problems and her saying she wants to die.. (shes 9) well when we went i phoned a while after to se if she was ok and she had kicked off i could hear her shouting in the background. my hubby went back and stayed the night, i went back in yesterday found out she'd tried to jump out of the window (4 floors up) she was discharged yesterday, no one from mental health saw her cos she has an appt with them in june. we have a mental health nurse coming to see her tomorrow. shes been told if she goes back to hospital she has to have a drip from her nose to her stomach..

im so mad i tried to tell this same mental health nurse months ago what she was like and he fobbed me off.. (didn't believe me more like)

now i feel guilty its my fault shes like this, i am struggling to help, im irriatable, confused want to scream shout and cry all at once, im having to be the sane sensible one and i can't i don't want any of this for her im so confused... sorry its so long.:(:(:(:(
 
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Aww I am not surprised you are feeling as you are. Hope the appointment tomorrow goes well and that you can get the help that you and your daughter needs.

I am not sure if this site can help out any with reading info etc
http://www.camhs.org.uk/
 
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I'm too young to have children but I once had a friend who kept trying to kill herself and that was one of the worst times for me. It's very difficult to see your loved ones suffer. I might not be able to help you in any way but I'd like you to know that I care. Let us know about how the appointment goes :hug:
 
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i really hope today goes ok .
my heart goes out to you, your husband, and your daughter.
you may have had your own problems, but your daughter's problems are surely not your 'fault'.
whatever the causes, you are there for her now, you and her dad.
you obviously love her enormously, which is what she needs right now.
:hug:
 
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noodlepixie

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I'd firstly like to thank you for all your kind messages of support.. regarding the camhs nurse meeting its boggled my brain to be honest were monitoring her eating and drinking via a diary, we have a appointment with the camhs consultant at the beginning of june, the nurse he said about seeing cases like this all the time.. we found it quite stressful he asked me if id mentioned to her about my own illness, i got a bit irritated by this and snapped no i keep my problems to myself and don't let things show in front of my children..
He said we would be having a cafs meeting soon, hes also coming again tomorrow..
my health visitor came round and was really helpful... i want only the best help for her..

Im really struggling with it all my head is spinning and i feel guilty cos i don't want my daughter to end up like me and i feel guilty for feeling bad cos its not about me... aaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh :cry:
 
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i'm not surprised your head is spinning :cry:

i hope your meeting today goes ok :hug:
 
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It must be very painful for you, but don't lose hope. It'll be okay.
 
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NoodleP,
I really feel for you. 9 years old is such a young age for her to be like this and not getting the proper mental health treatment!!. I find it almost hard to believe that she is getting so 'mistreated' or maybe the correct way to put it is 'not treated' by the mental health system. My god, she tried to jump out a window, she is not eating or drinking!! Just what else has to happen to the little girl before some health professional steps in and helps her?? I hope that you get her the treatment she need. Good luck.
Love, Jacqui
 

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