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LisaLisa

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I'm 34 years old and suffer from depression and anxiety. I'm married to a man that I love more than anything in this world. But I'm having issues. My marriage is falling apart. I don't trust him...which I have valid reasons to not trust him. He swears up and down that I'm the only one he wants and that it's all in my head and if I can't tighten up and get control of my fears and worries then I'm going to lose him. How do I stop thinking these things? Its driving me crazy. Seriously. It hurts so bad that 2 weeks ago I attempted suicide because I feel like I'm losing the only person in this world that cares. I've put him through hell. I have treated him like dirt. I've made him cry. But yet in my mind he's cheating on me. What do I do? I don't want to lose him. I don't want to believe he's cheating on me. How do I let go of my fears and worries and just love him and be happy? I'm also scared that if I do let go...and he is cheating...am I going to be strong enough to take it. Please someone....I need some help.
 
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BorderlineDownunder

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I'm 34 years old and suffer from depression and anxiety. I'm married to a man that I love more than anything in this world. But I'm having issues. My marriage is falling apart. I don't trust him...which I have valid reasons to not trust him. He swears up and down that I'm the only one he wants and that it's all in my head and if I can't tighten up and get control of my fears and worries then I'm going to lose him. How do I stop thinking these things? Its driving me crazy. Seriously. It hurts so bad that 2 weeks ago I attempted suicide because I feel like I'm losing the only person in this world that cares. I've put him through hell. I have treated him like dirt. I've made him cry. But yet in my mind he's cheating on me. What do I do? I don't want to lose him. I don't want to believe he's cheating on me. How do I let go of my fears and worries and just love him and be happy? I'm also scared that if I do let go...and he is cheating...am I going to be strong enough to take it. Please someone....I need some help.
Hi Lisa

so sorry you are going through this

do you have any treatment for your depression and anxiety?

BDU
 
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tomghanini2

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Bit late now, but... Maybe it is not about him possibly cheating but you not feeling good enough about yourself to be able to accept he loves you. If this is so, maybe once you are able to appreciate yourself as a kick-ass gal who deserves to be loved then your doubts about your husband will fade.:)
 
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