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anxiousman24

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Hi guys

I am a male from UK and have been suffering from this problem and hope that someone can help me with it.

It all started when I had a protected sexual encounter with a person of unknown sexual status in 2007 October. After this incident I suffered for 1 whole year because of the fear that I had caught HIV. I could not handle the mental stress anymore and decided to get an HIV test in October 2008. My test result was negative and I was happy for some time. However, incidents which happened during the test and afterwards have generated new fears within me and I have become an anxiety/nervous wreck once again and it is destroying my life. I will tell you exactly what happened.

2 weeks after I received my HIV negative result, I suddenly remembered something which happened at the clinic. On the first day I went to the clinic for a blood test, I gave my real contact details to the lady on the counter (there is an option of giving false names/addresses but I gave my real details). Then she asked me to go to a room where some other people were also waiting. I went and sat there and waited for the nurse to come and call my name. After some time a nurse came and called a name which sounded bit like mine. However she pronounced it very differently. Her pronunciation was not clear but at the same time it sounded bit like my name so I went to her and pronounced my name properly to her. She said okay so I thought it must be my name that she called and went with her. She took my blood & urine samples and asked me to come after 2 weeks to get the result. I went to get the result 2 weeks after the test and this time the clinician called my name clearly and I went in and got my negative test result.

I’m worried that the nurse called someone else’s name and I have gone in and done the test thinking it was my name. I’m worried that the HIV result of my blood sample is now linked to someone else’s patient record and vice versa. I know this is virtually impossible and sounds stupid but I couldn’t get that thought out of my mind. When I went in to do the blood test, the nurse asked and got my date of birth from me so I think she must have checked it with the details I gave earlier to the lady at the counter but I’m still not sure. The same nurse phoned me about 10 days after my blood test to confirm that I was coming to get my test result. Even then she pronounced my name differently and I pronounced it correctly to her again. She said ok and made sure that I was coming to get my result.

3 weeks passed with these thoughts on my mind. I finally thought I’m going to visit the clinic again and ask them if there could be a possible mix up.

Below is what I said to the nurse (this was a different nurse) when I went to re-confirm. The nurse had my records and test results when I talked to her.

“I came for an HIV test about a month ago and received my results and I was diagnosed HIV negative. However, the day I came for my blood test, the nurse called my name and she pronounced it very differently. Her pronunciation was not clear but at the same time it sounded bit like my name so I went to her and pronounced my name properly to her. She said okay and took me to the test room and got my blood samples & urine samples. Thing is I’m worried that I went in for another persons name”

After listening to this, the nurse said that there could be no mix up as they use a unique number with date of birth for every ones test samples before they send it to the labs so no mix up can happen. Because she said that such a mix up can’t happen, I did not try to understand exactly how such labeling can avoid mix ups. I still don’t understand it but I trust her because I think they know better than us and I don’t think they would lie/misinform us on such a serious matter. If any of you understood how they avoid mix ups like this with the labeling method she mentioned, please let me know.

Anyway I thought (even u guys must be thinking) my problems are over but now another fear has entered my mind.

During the conversation with the nurse, I said “Thing is I’m worried that I went in for another persons name”

When I said that does it sound like

1) I went in giving a different name rather than giving my real name
2) I went in for another persons test because I thought I heard the nurse call my name when it was indeed another persons name

I’m worried because I think she must have given me an explanation on understanding something similar to number 1. If she said that there can be no mix up thinking if something like number 2 happened – then it’s okay.

Most of you must be thinking I’m the dumbest person on earth and I too wonder from where the hell does this stupid logic coming in to my mind. I want to tell you that I’m not joking and I’m still suffering from fear and anxiety.

Please give your views and help me because it will really be good for me to ease my tension & anxiety. Sorry for this long post.

Thanks
Nervous_wreck
 
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saffron

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it must have been a harrowing time going through this, and a releif when it came back negative, however, if you really cannot get the feeling that a mistake has been made then go and get another test to make definately sure and put your mind at ease.
you are using protection which is great, but maybe you will feel more safer if you get to know the person really well before sex is involved.
best of luck
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anxiousman24

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thank you for your reply.

I just wanna know on what u think about the probability of this happening ?

thanks
 
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saffron

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I just wanna know on what u think about the probability of this happening ?
i assume you mean them getting them mixed up? no idea sorry, but even if there was it is what your are thinking that is causing your anxiety not the %.
if I said it was 99.9% you would still doubt that .1%, wouldnt you.
y what I have read, you went through a long time not knowing before you even actually did anything about it, a year is a lot time to not know something so important so I am not surprised you still do not accept it is over and so think about all sorts of other things that could sabotage it.
Go and have another test, i feel that this is the only way that you will know for sure, you can ask and check everything as it happens rather than having this doubt. this will stop you functioning as a person because there is no rea closure that you accept yet. hope that makes sense.
there are also counsellors for this so a chat to them might put your mind at ease more.
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anxiousman24

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thanks man. i'll see how it goes for another 2-3 weeks & if nothing helps, i'll retest.

please keep in touch.
 
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saffron

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its a pleasure and hope you find the strength to retest, maybe now would be etter than later, unless there is a reason for putting yourself through another 2-3 weeks of anguish.
please also, (trying not to preach here) but please try to be more carefu with your sexual partners. you have lost a year of your life through this technically.
best wishes and take care
by the way
welcome to the forum
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anxiousman24

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thanks man. I will be more carefull.
 
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jamesdean

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I wouldnt think that anyone on this site would think you are dumb, you will only find support here, I would try not to worry to much though that isnt always easy, I havent followed the story that I completely but I think you have to trust the fact that you gave the correct d o b at all times. Have you thought about having the test again or am i being dumb now, I hope it all works out for you take good care JD:D
 
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Dollit

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There are steps taken to ensure that mix ups don't occur. They do occasionally but very occasionally. If you feel that you'd like to be retested then go back and ask for another test and put your mind at rest.

You are unlikely to have become HIV+ on a single, protected encounter.

Talk to your GP if you really need some reassurance and ask them for the statistics. You'll find them heavily weighted in your favour.
 
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Twylight

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Yep, try not to worry

when you first enter the clinic and give your details (DOB) they issue you with a number.
 
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anxiousman24

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thanks guys. I am feeling ok now & i have calmed down. thanks very much
 
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saffron

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thats great, if you need to talk about things again you know where we are
take care
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bluenomore

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Hey Anxiousman24,

You're not being dumb at all. Can I make a suggestion. Either get another test as has already been mentioned, or ring the clinic and ask them to confirm your results to you (you might have to go there in person, now I think about it). Anyway, even if there was a mix up with names when you first got your results, if you go back and ask them to confirm it, they will be able to tell you your exact HIV status.

I know this can be very worrying. Been in that situation myself.
Take it easy bud :)

x blue
 
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